I third this, it was where all the waste lie in my life. Quitting drinking made quitting smoking easier, which made exercising easier, all of which gave me a more positive outlook, and before I knew it, I had myself the best girl I could have ever asked for (she asked ME out), my home was clean, I had the energy to clean and cook and type out run-on sentences for days!
Quit at 36, I’m 38, best two years of my adult life. Plenty more to go. Glad to be on the same journey as you fellas
I didn’t want to elaborate originally because this is a meme community after all, but one of the biggest things I will say is that being gripped with alcoholism truly felt like living life as a stunted person in arrested development. Between the constant drunk/hangover cycle, the depression and anxiety, and just the general shame it felt impossible to maintain the consistency necessary to truly grow as a person.
I was very aware of how problematic behavior from the beginning, but that didn’t make it any easier. My father died in a sudden accident a month or two after my 21st and alcohol was my coping mechanism. It sucks to feel like I now have to refigure out who I am in my 30’s and reconcile with all the lost time, but today is always better than never.
Glad to hear you successfully made it to this point as well ☺️
I haven’t touched the stuff except from communion and taste testing. I plan to keep it that way. At least never drink enough to get significantly drunk.
I’m a fucking drunk and I agree with you. I don’t suffer from alcoholism, but I really enjoy drinking when appropriate (even if it’s an inappropriate amount). But there’s plenty to be sober for.
Good on you, friend. I’m glad you’ve got your shit together.
I’m not a drunk but I do drink every night. My wife gave me shit about it awhile back and I asked her, “have you ever seen me blackout drunk, mean and yelling, doing stupid shit? No, because I don’t get “wasted” I just drink enough that I feel like my life outside of my family isn’t literally destroying me through stress and constant attention.” (I’m a regional type manager for a company). I also pointed out that I go several nights in a row occasionally where I don’t drink at all, albeit usually when I’ve been away from work for some time. She agreed that I have indeed never displayed any negative traits about my alcohol consumption. She worries though because my dad was/is a full blown shitty drunk. She smokes weed everyday, in fact as I’m typing this she’s loading a bowl and that’s her vice and I’ll never judge for that. This is mine.
Long story short, it’s a really bad habit that can absolutely destroy families and lives. But I can’t stand being actually “drunk” so I just have a few drinks most nights because my American life is slowly breaking me down. I’ve been this way for many years but never crossed any line. Others might not have sight of the line so I agree that it’s a thin line and not one to be fucked with.
Sorry for the rant, I’ve had my allotted 4 glasses of wine and I’m feeling good lol.
That’s a bullshit lie, as someone who battled alcoholism for over a dozen years and finally got my shit together.
Similar situation and I second this. Life is better in every way once you pry alcoholism away from it.
I third this, it was where all the waste lie in my life. Quitting drinking made quitting smoking easier, which made exercising easier, all of which gave me a more positive outlook, and before I knew it, I had myself the best girl I could have ever asked for (she asked ME out), my home was clean, I had the energy to clean and cook and type out run-on sentences for days!
Quit at 36, I’m 38, best two years of my adult life. Plenty more to go. Glad to be on the same journey as you fellas
I didn’t want to elaborate originally because this is a meme community after all, but one of the biggest things I will say is that being gripped with alcoholism truly felt like living life as a stunted person in arrested development. Between the constant drunk/hangover cycle, the depression and anxiety, and just the general shame it felt impossible to maintain the consistency necessary to truly grow as a person.
I was very aware of how problematic behavior from the beginning, but that didn’t make it any easier. My father died in a sudden accident a month or two after my 21st and alcohol was my coping mechanism. It sucks to feel like I now have to refigure out who I am in my 30’s and reconcile with all the lost time, but today is always better than never.
Glad to hear you successfully made it to this point as well ☺️
I haven’t touched the stuff except from communion and taste testing. I plan to keep it that way. At least never drink enough to get significantly drunk.
I’m a fucking drunk and I agree with you. I don’t suffer from alcoholism, but I really enjoy drinking when appropriate (even if it’s an inappropriate amount). But there’s plenty to be sober for.
Good on you, friend. I’m glad you’ve got your shit together.
I’m not a drunk but I do drink every night. My wife gave me shit about it awhile back and I asked her, “have you ever seen me blackout drunk, mean and yelling, doing stupid shit? No, because I don’t get “wasted” I just drink enough that I feel like my life outside of my family isn’t literally destroying me through stress and constant attention.” (I’m a regional type manager for a company). I also pointed out that I go several nights in a row occasionally where I don’t drink at all, albeit usually when I’ve been away from work for some time. She agreed that I have indeed never displayed any negative traits about my alcohol consumption. She worries though because my dad was/is a full blown shitty drunk. She smokes weed everyday, in fact as I’m typing this she’s loading a bowl and that’s her vice and I’ll never judge for that. This is mine.
Long story short, it’s a really bad habit that can absolutely destroy families and lives. But I can’t stand being actually “drunk” so I just have a few drinks most nights because my American life is slowly breaking me down. I’ve been this way for many years but never crossed any line. Others might not have sight of the line so I agree that it’s a thin line and not one to be fucked with.
Sorry for the rant, I’ve had my allotted 4 glasses of wine and I’m feeling good lol.
You’re dependent. Maybe not physically but psychologically.
Congrats! Don’t let anyone take that away from you.