you may be right that it simply needs more time. feels bad right now but if we’re really meant to stay close it’s a pretty small blip in the course of a human life (knock on wood, assuming nothing bad happens to us prematurely). it’s a bit more complicated than hoping she’ll come around though. obviously i still have feelings, but i don’t think i’d trust the prospect of romantic reconciliation right now. and it’s not really black and white who broke things off - she made the final judgment call but i impulsively proposed doing so then took it back during the fight that ended stuff which obviously made her feel destabilized and unsafe, it was a pretty bad time. relationships and dating are hard man

considering what a dork i act like in the mega methinks many of you would be quiiiiiiiiiiiite surprised to learn how handsome and charming i am in the real grasstouching world

Usually people find that hard but I figure since we were never really lovers (just rapidly heading there) it should be easier.

it’s massively case by case but yeah usually easier to convert a crush that never happened back to friendship. it sounds like crush 2 is going through some dark shit from your last post, i hope they get the help they need.

first dates are low stakes! don’t worry so much about rizz and worry more about being open and curious about her, remember that you’re feeling out whether you might be interested in her as much as the other way around. I agree with CommieJones about keeping texting to a minimum before an in-person meet, you can get so much more of a real read on someone out of a few hours face to face vs a whole epoch of texting.

Work sucks

also true on its own (but yes to the rest of your post as well lol)

def better long term but probably feels more unfun in the moment lol

you’re reminding me i should catch up on blowback, i’m 2 seasons behind (the korea one was the last one i listened to)

drank in excess alone last night and shut off two separate spooky movies halfway through cuz i was enjoying them so little. loser evening for Soylent

ending jenny death with death grips 2.0 instead of On GP is a world class L. sino-soviet split levels.

thought about picking it up for Aki but fighting games are such a time sink…

when i was acclimating to the apps after a decade+ not using them at all, i got in my feelings about a lack of success a lot (and posted incessantly about it here). but most matches fizzle and it’s not personal, and even if she felt like it was personal on her end somehow (i.e. got a vague ick from a reply of yours), this match doesn’t know you at all. you’re a few paragraphs and a curated selection of photos. it really doesn’t reflect on you or your desirability at all at all at all.

it sucks, but the way i learned to function and find some success on the apps was to A) learn to never get attached to a match who i haven’t met in person yet and B) stop overthinking my approach and be myself/go with the flow more.

EDIT: lol just saw your update. see, sometimes it works out! i also had to learn to not read into periods of silence, sometimes its a lack of interest but sometimes there are other explanations. my mini-relationship off hinge started from her taking days between responses.

after careful deliberation orange monster > white monster

idk they probably would be too different but i just think it’s kinda cute

do you think harry and kim could fall in love if the former got his shit together and accepted his bisexuality?

yeesh that sounds super upsetting about #2, sounds like they need deeper help/support and healing that you don’t necessarily have to shoulder the burden of or be around if it feels unsafe. hope you’re doing alright after a confrontation like that.

i continue to be stunned that you and #1 aren’t already dating lol

Just try to aim for “having a fun night getting drinks” to keep it low pressure.

roger that. i am good at being chill and going with the flow. i am good with uncertainty and letting go of expectations. yeah. those things definitely describe the thing that is me

hehe thank u mane! i’m def not really sure what i want from this - a weekish ago i’d be hoping for romantic reconciliation to be on the table, but it didn’t work out once and it was barely any time ago so i kinda wouldn’t trust that and i really doubt it’s on the table. i really do think it would be lovely to be able to be friends with her if it’s not too confusing and hurtful for one or both of us, we have a great connection and she truly is my favorite new person that i’ve met in a long while.

i do kind of like the idea/fantasy of it growing back into something after a good chunk of friendship time when the timing is better for us - though obviously it would be wrong and unfair to both of us to go into a friendship expecting that, and that “maybe but probably not” isn’t something to put your life on hold for. idk i’m not great with uncertainty or with having flexible expectations but ya boy is trying!!

im slightly short and i mostly really like bein a spritely pretty lil guy, half elf rogue with a heart of gold vibes downsides are mostly concerts (can’t see shit with all the talls crowding around), somewhat hurts my dating prospects w/ women (mostly just cishets tho), and idk if this is in my head but i feel like when i encounter sketchy characters on the street im sliiiiiiiightly more likely to be targeted for weird harassment and shit? idk that last one might be a stretch.