Since Lemmy is federated, and the admins of each instance choose what’s allowed and what’s not in their own instance.
How do you feel about what’s allowed and what’s not in your current instance ?
I’ll start: I’ve read people complaining about my instance admins, but I haven’t experienced nor seen anything I specifically disagree with.
And I’ve read things they wrote that I absolutely agree with, like not federating with Meta under any circumstances.
So for now, I’m happy with it. If I get banned randomly, I don’t think I’d go to a different instance, though. I’d probably just stop visiting Lemmy altogether.
I’ve been on Lemmy for 4 months now. I’ve never had any problems with the rules. In fact, I haven’t had any problems with any of the instances so far, even those that people consider “extreme” (like Hexbear and Lemmy.ml, people often complain about problems with their users, I personally haven’t had any problems at all with them; on the contrary, I usually interact there in a productive and peaceful way, even when I disagree with them on some things).
I think it has more to do with people’s behavior than with the strictness of certain instances/communities. I always try to be respectful. Respectfulness is the key.