• riverSpirit
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    Look at the people around, do any of them look like they approve this?

    Just because no one wants to risk getting involved with a psycho, when statistically the abused will side with the abuser in such a situation against you, does not mean society accepts it.

    • Fushuan [he/him]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      If you’ve ever been the victim of bullying you should already know that bystanders, by not stopping the perpetrators, implicitly validate it. That’s how the perpetrators continue.

      If you have not been a victim of public harrassment, kindly, stfu.

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        Don’t you dare demand the public step in to risk their life when you won’t even leave a relationship.

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          I’m not demanding anything, I’m countering your point that silent disapproval means that it’s shunned upon. It’s not. I’m not blaming anyone for not stepping in, I’ve also not stepped in several times, but be aware that that’s enabling.

          “Society is against this kind of behaviour” no it isn’t, it fucking isn’t. Sometimes individuals have good reasons, whatever, but the conclusion is that abusers feel enabled. And I’m not even touching the disparity between genders in these situations.

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      I mean, when the woman was the victim, they got together and helped her deal with it. When the man was the victim, they either ignored it or in a few cases were caught by the camera smiling at what was happening.