Being single, I don’t have to worry about my boyfriend looking at and lusting over other women. Or not listening to me. Or judging me. Shouting at me. Calling me names. Threatening suicide. Or about his well being 🤷♀️. Keeping him interested…. The list goes on. Rethinking if being with him is really worth it…
But I don’t get cuddles, kisses, a person to go to and be with.
I always thought, “I need to focus on my friendships before getting with a guy” friends are the foundation. I wouldn’t be with me if I was a guy. I’m pretty boring. Not got anything going on. But Yh. Even though I’m currently single, I’ve not used my single time to work on my self and my life and improving it.
I do romanticise having an fp that I can run away with but. Maybe this is it.
I’m not saying that “it’s ok” or makes me a good person that that’s the list but I’m saying these are things I don’t have to deal with/ think/worry about, being single.
Everyone gets jealous. Everyone judges their partner at some point on something. Im aware of the contradictions I made but it’s just the reality of things. We don’t like being with people for selfish reasons sometimes too. Sometimes I don’t want to have to concern myself with someone else’s well being and I also don’t like feeling judged or like I’m not 🎵 “the only girl in the world” to my partner (no matter how unrealistic that is!). Those things aren’t mutually exclusive but yes it is hypocritical to say that. Or selfish. But true.
And that’s what this post is about. The price you pay for being selfish. You don’t get the good parts if you don’t accept some things that could make you a better person for putting up with.
But often times it’s easier to just forget the whole thing because it’s too much.