My workplace has a ton of these “Rise & Grind™️©️®️” Sigma and Ligma mindset books all over the place. I read them from time to time to gaze into the dreaded and loathsome Manosphere and understand my enemy.
The core of these books is a sort of bastardized self-actualization. I genuinely don’t think becoming accountable to set of values and being active member in one’s own life is a bad thing; in fact I think if they left it at that a lot of guys would be better for it. However, I find it to be uniquely corrupted by neoliberalism and capitalism, in that it twists and warps manhood into this ideal that demands the domination of everything and everyone around. It turns manhood into a zero-sum game.
A lot of these books blogs websites do offer somewhat meaningful mental frameworks for “achievement” but I’m always questioned as to what end. much of it is a false myth of manhood and recapturing a masculinity that never existed which I feel uniquely disappoints men. Patriarchy leaves men particularly vulnerable to these sorts of traps and snares when they are feeling down and out.
I do think it’s good to strive and do your best, but that should never EVER come at the cost of someone else doing the same. If anything you should be helping others become their best too, so you two can be your best together and shine even brighter. I hate how the modern world has made being a dude about just being a dick with a bunch of stuff rather than being a good person. Discipline, steadfast commitment, pushing through failure, all that sort of stuff is great and good but not if it’s just implemented to get a new shiny bauble or whatever. Capitalism really does hinder men’s ability to live up their supposed values and virtues. We can’t be the mean we want to be with under capitalism, we can’t be the men we actually should be as along as capitalism is rules over us
Being a great man should be defined by your ability actually live out manly virtues, not these fast food Mc-ideals of debasing yourself for some coin. A good dude is more than his ability to dominate.
I don’t know what my larger point is, but I’m just typing this at work cause they got me working on a Sunday and all these dumb books are lying around the “leadership” library. It’s just so fuckin’ corny.