Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?

  • cabbage@piefed.socialEnglish
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    15 hours ago

    Holy shit, the sociology of group chats is complex as fuck judging from these comments. I hate them too much to ever have stopped and wondered why I hate them.

    My suggestion would echo Bukowski: Don’t try. It’s perfectly fine to only respond in the group chat when something needs to be coordinated. Everything else one on one communication is better for. And if you do feel like interacting, don’t force it. Silence is never wrong. On the contrary.

    I don’t even do group chats for party invitations. I just text everyone individually. It’s a little more work but it’s so much nicer, as far as I’m concerned.

    Then again, I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man and without a doubt out of thouch.

    • kalkulat@lemmy.world
      2·
      3 hours ago

      +1 just for mentioning Bukowsky … he is WAY underrepresented on the Internet (which explains why it’s in this state)

        • cabbage@piefed.socialEnglish
          4·
          10 hours ago

          When it comes to digital communication, I think I might be a dinosaur. I have never used Discord or TikTok. My group chat experience as a teenager was on IRC.

          Culturally I am also out of touch - I come from a time when young people were reliably progressive, and where there did not seem to be a huge political gender divide. I feel weirdly removed from those born ten years after me, who are now around 20.

          Sure, I’m in a few group chats on WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger, and I know these situations in the abstract. But if OP is a teenager they probably come from a completely different world than I do.

          I’m just not with it any more, you know. I wear an onion in my belt.

          That said, I of course agree completely that I am the embodiment of youth in most aspects of life!

          • kalkulat@lemmy.world
            2·
            3 hours ago

            I’m so with you on this. Only much moreso. WITF would I EVER want to use stupid little computer where you have to type with your THUMBS? And costs TWICE as much as a great desktop?

            “Portability” they say. Hell I went out-of-house to AVOID phonecalls, to live in the material world, not to walk down the street looking in the direction of my toes, missing everything going on around me, talking to invisible people. Pathetic.