how could you tell, since npd is an actual condition, so of course they’ll act differently, but it’s used so often to describe a regular, typical asshole.
I am not a narcissist. I don’t think I’m better or more important than anyone else. I don’t think I’m the center of the universe.
I am however, an asshole. Knowing you are not the best or smartest, doesn’t mean you can’t be arrogant and insufferable.
Functionally, not much I can see , the former’s slur for people with NPD (or whom person saying it thinks has NPD)
it’s a slur? let me change the title then
🆗️ so what differentiates some one with (NPD|just some asshole) is one obviously has disability while the other dœsn’t (necessarily)
NPD ≠ asshole disorder . More complex than that , and (assholish|selfcentered)ness isn’t innate trait some peops have
There’s no way to “tell” some one has NPD , and it’s not gꝏd to armchair diagnose some one . You’ll generally only know if some one has it’s if they tell you
Not gꝏd with explaining , srry
Narcissism, like all personality disorders, is a trauma response and also not indicative of someone’s moral character as you can get help and learn not to act on your worst inclinations.
Asshole is a behavior.
Narcissists lack something that makes them whole. They desperately try to fill that void that fits in the current moment. They tend to truly believe a story to fit their needs and completely change it when the situation changes. You won’t be able to correct their story based on your own memory. Sociopaths are whole, their memory is stable, their deeds are purposefully malignant.
There’s gotta be a vin diagram for this one
My layman’s understanding is that clinical narcissism is a pathological obsession with the perception of self (vs. sociopathy which is pathological obsession with self-interests, explained in a moment), and being an asshole is a transient state.
A narcissist will constantly have in mind what others think of them, and obsessively make sure other people believe they are good, socially better, morally superior, high status, etc. at any cost, and will topple and tear down other people to ensure that perception. Anyone who challenges that is a threat and will be treated with active hostility. They care what you think because it feeds their sickness.
A sociopath generally does not care what you think, unless you believing something is useful to them. They are typically equally focused on others’ perception of them but for a different reason. People are simply tools; means to an end. Reputation is an asset in their toolkit to get what they want, at whatever cost. Lack of remorse at a pervasive, chronic level tends to characterize sociopathy.
An asshole doesn’t necessarily mean either. I can be mean to you, or hurt someone to get my way, and that would make me an asshole. I don’t necessarily think I’m better than you and I do have the capacity to feel remorse. Asshole is a changeable behavior, or an attitude, and not a severe disorder.
TL;DR: Narcissists are specifically mentally sick, and can be assholes. But anyone can act like an asshole ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I think it’s important to highlight the obsessive portion of it. Many people care about others perception of them, whereas narcissists literally obsess over it, to the point where every though and action is permeated by the crafting their image and boosting their other’s perception, to the point where it becomes the narcissist’s only goal. It’s highly connected to ego, and a narcissist only ever does anything to chase a sense of superiority.
Every narcissist is an asshole, but not every asshole is a narcissist
That’s definitely not true. Narcissism is a personality disorder like any other. If it’s worked on and treated it can be fine.
There are no mental disorders that inherently make someone a bad person.
My asshole is definitely not a narcissist.
The asshole is an asshole on purpose.
The narcissist couldn’t stop acting like an asshole even if they tried.a narcissist is self-absorbed
an asshole actively enjoys the suffering of others
One of them narrowly made it into the DSM-5 and the other never will.
The Politics of Sociopathic Narcissism
It is thus plausible to consider “narcissism” and “sociopathy” as really two poles on a continuum of overlapping traits (and indeed, the newly-revised DSM V, which considered subsuming narcissistic traits into sociopathy, has moved in this direction).
Youtuber Sarah Z has a whole video about how this online “Narcissist” obsession is dumb.
Narcissist believes they’re right. Assholes just think you’re wrong.
Depression
anyone performing actions that hurt others where its not really about themselves. being mean for no particular reason or reward, especially to themselves.
this lady who was my friend for a while is mean a lot because she has anger issues and is just a generally miserable, rude person. she is also autistic (i believe) like me, and gets overstimulated and is rude to everyone when they start talking all at once.
however, she is also especially cruel when she wants some sort of goal, and acts superior to everyone else. you’re a useless loser no matter how hard you try, and you are disgusting to be around. how dare you stand less than 10 yards from her?! you’re lucky to even be in her presence.
also, she is “always better than you” and cannot admit being wrong or take accountability.
Sounds like she has no empathy already, and some sort of fragile ego so potentially narcissistic.
Karen dector going off
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