Certainly requires a combination of many things I have going for myself. Looks to get your attention, allure to get you close, strength to position you how I want, intelligence to know which buttons to push, confidence to know I will make you do whatever I want, and experience from breaking so many different types of men and women.
One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇
Because they become the best at obeying. Guess it’s like as a dom they love the power and control over a weaker person like how a planet has control over its moon but with me, I’m like a super massive blackhole in terms of power over other people. My gravity captures everything that gets close to me and that power to someone as simple as a planet is awe inspiring and impossible to ignore.
@MuscularGoddess that’s very insightful on two counts. First a dominant knows what it is to serve and knows the expectations they set, and therefore the expectations that others will require of them. I think that makes them attentive and obedient potential subs. Second, of course you have a gravitational pull and could exercise charm, force, or the provision of pleasure or it’s denial to ensure that your former Dom becomes an eager little pup for you
@MuscularGoddess with the exception of your potential quirks and specific preferences: how you like to punish, what deserves a reward, how you require to be worshipped, when is pleasure earned and similarly when is frustration and denied arousal more amusing and fulfilling
Typically my punishments include denied access to me for online subs and slaves. Not completing a task I ask for when I ask for it to be completed results in getting ghosted until you have begged and earned my time again. I have a lot of people wanting to worship me so it can be pretty brutal to earn your way back up the list so that you can be apart of my virtual video conferences to be able to see and interact with me in real time. In person punishments typically involve me taking my frustration out on you physically. Trying to leave a lingering feeling of what you will have to deal with if you disappoint me again.
Also depending on their specific kink in the D/s space I will tailor punishments to that too. Findom slaves want me spending their money, so I won’t and will use someone else’s to get myself something then show it off to the one being punished. Masochists won’t get any physical pain from me, I treat them kindly like any other standard person in my life. Edging….no more edging. Roleplay….I wont read their prompts. Errand boys….no more errands. I use their desires against them to keep them trying hard to please me.
I reward genuine worship. People who care more about what we both get out of the relationship rather than satisfying their own link using me as a muse. The harder they work for me, the more time and energy I will give back. Truthfully a domme is nothing without a sub and vice versa. I can only be as awsome a domme as my subs are willing to let me be.
I’m in my mid 20s and have been a domme since I was roughly 15 so a decade of refining and tweaking methods and sculpting my body to be as perfect and irresistible as possible.
Certainly requires a combination of many things I have going for myself. Looks to get your attention, allure to get you close, strength to position you how I want, intelligence to know which buttons to push, confidence to know I will make you do whatever I want, and experience from breaking so many different types of men and women.
@MuscularGoddess ngl, just reading that literally got me hard
If text made you feel that way then you’d really stand no chance in person with me ;) Subs who were doms are the best of subs ;)
@MuscularGoddess oh really? Why is it that subs who were Doms as your favourite?
One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇
Because they become the best at obeying. Guess it’s like as a dom they love the power and control over a weaker person like how a planet has control over its moon but with me, I’m like a super massive blackhole in terms of power over other people. My gravity captures everything that gets close to me and that power to someone as simple as a planet is awe inspiring and impossible to ignore.
@MuscularGoddess that’s very insightful on two counts. First a dominant knows what it is to serve and knows the expectations they set, and therefore the expectations that others will require of them. I think that makes them attentive and obedient potential subs. Second, of course you have a gravitational pull and could exercise charm, force, or the provision of pleasure or it’s denial to ensure that your former Dom becomes an eager little pup for you
Excellently written. You understand it perfectly from my point of view.
@MuscularGoddess with the exception of your potential quirks and specific preferences: how you like to punish, what deserves a reward, how you require to be worshipped, when is pleasure earned and similarly when is frustration and denied arousal more amusing and fulfilling
Typically my punishments include denied access to me for online subs and slaves. Not completing a task I ask for when I ask for it to be completed results in getting ghosted until you have begged and earned my time again. I have a lot of people wanting to worship me so it can be pretty brutal to earn your way back up the list so that you can be apart of my virtual video conferences to be able to see and interact with me in real time. In person punishments typically involve me taking my frustration out on you physically. Trying to leave a lingering feeling of what you will have to deal with if you disappoint me again.
Also depending on their specific kink in the D/s space I will tailor punishments to that too. Findom slaves want me spending their money, so I won’t and will use someone else’s to get myself something then show it off to the one being punished. Masochists won’t get any physical pain from me, I treat them kindly like any other standard person in my life. Edging….no more edging. Roleplay….I wont read their prompts. Errand boys….no more errands. I use their desires against them to keep them trying hard to please me.
I reward genuine worship. People who care more about what we both get out of the relationship rather than satisfying their own link using me as a muse. The harder they work for me, the more time and energy I will give back. Truthfully a domme is nothing without a sub and vice versa. I can only be as awsome a domme as my subs are willing to let me be.
I’m in my mid 20s and have been a domme since I was roughly 15 so a decade of refining and tweaking methods and sculpting my body to be as perfect and irresistible as possible.