I’m about to start my 12 week paternity leave next week thanks to a state program and almost everyone that I’ve told has had their jaws on the floor that I would even want to do that.
Today I witnessed a group of coworkers almost bragging how little time they took after their kids were born. I’ve heard stuff like “Most men are hard working and want to support their families so they don’t take leave”.
To me it was a no brainer, I’m getting ~85% of my normal pay and I get to take care of my wife, our son and our newborn for 3 whole months. and for someone who hasn’t taken a day breathe in the past 3 years I think I deserve it.
I’m in the US so I know it’s a “strange” concept, but people have seemed genuinely upset, people it doesn’t affect at all. Again, it’s a state program available to almost anyone who’s worked in the past 2 years, I’ve talked to soon to be dads who scoffed at the idea and were happy to use a week of pto and that’s it.
I feel like I’m missing something.
I just got back from effectively 17 weeks of paternity leave- my company provides 12 weeks (or they did last year when I started, it’s now only 8), and then I had 5 weeks of PTO, sick time, and floating holidays.
Take all the time you have. Easily the best decision I’ve made for the past few years. Not only does it remove the “did I get enough sleep during the night” stress, but the time I spent with our new child was amazing.
I’m an software engineering lead for a team of 8, they did fine without me. The boat’s still floating, as it were.