For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.
They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.
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Seriously? The word dudette exists for a reason, use it.
I got banned from lemmy.world/c/linuxsucks, which is one person’s mental illness, so who cares? Doesn’t stop me from calling them an idiot when they show up elsewhere.
Linux is the expression of the collective mental illness of thousands of mentally ill computer hobbyists.
I’m just glad I’m not the only one who views dude as androgynous.
I thought I was one of the few.
I find these always interesting to read in the following sentence: ‘I fucked a bunch of dudes’.
Do you also believe that this sentence would work for you? (Assuming you are a heterosexual)
Because I always thought I was in the ‘Dude is androgynous’ camp, but after considering that sentence: I don’t think so anymore
I find it androgynous and will use it for anyone, but if anyone told me they were uncomfortable with me referring to them that way, I would stop, as with anything. It’s simply decent to refer to people as they prefer.
Same, was banned for totally trivial reasons like being racist or something like that.
Dude is gender neutral
So is bitch, but if you ask someone to stop calling you bitch and they tell you to get over it, then they’re assholes.
That’s because bitch is an insult
Insult is very subjective. I have friends that call me and I call bitch all the time.
You’re arguing that the context is subjective to the word provided yes? Yet your example is also subjective, clearly when your friends call you bitch it’s not meant as an insult. I can’t think of a single instance in which using dude as an insult is going to get someone offended on purpose, where bitch definitely can be used purposefully.
Dude can be used as an insult when used to refer to someone who specifically said they don’t want to be called dude. I don’t know why this is so hard for you. If people don’t want to be called something, don’t call them that. Definitely don’t tell them it’s their fault if they’re offended and they need to get over it.
Yeah that’s not how language works, that’s how pestering works, just because you don’t like to be called Apple and I call you an apple doesn’t mean that apple is now magically an insult word.
I don’t know why this is so hard for you
Nope. That’s exactly how language works. You seem to be confused.
Cuntycunt
I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes, yea!
How many dudes have you fucked?
Fuck blahaj, All my homies hate blahaj🗣️🔥
How come only assholes have issues with these communities?
I don’t have an issue with the members of the blahaj community, which is why this is unfortunate.
You seem like you do by telling them to “get over it” when they ask you not to refer to them in a certain way.
My dude, to my knowledge I never even directly interacted with a member of that community in that thread.
You don’t need to interact with someone to have a problem with them. You said people offended by the inherent gender of the word “dude” need to get over it. They don’t want that in their community, so they banned you.
The fact remains, I personally have no issue with the members of the blahaj community.
Unless they ask you not to call them dudes.
Which never happened.
You fucking cunt
No person can predict, much less accommodate every positive or negative perception of a word. At what point do you simply tell people to “get over it” when they are taking a meaning from something you are unaware of, and do not care about? This guy got banned over the word “dude” and it makes the entire community look overly sensitive. Trans people are just people, like the rest of us, and we all have to deal with so much every single day.
For every single trans person who is offended by calling them “dude”, another would be offended that you’d treat them differently by not calling them “dude”. This is approaching the same type ridiculousness as people getting angry over “happy holidays” instead of “merry christmas” tbh.
You don’t have to predict any kind of positive or negative perception of a word. If you misgender me, I’ll tell you “please don’t” to which, if you’re not an asshole, you’ll reply “ok”. Replying “Actually, that’s a neutral word, so just get over it, mmkay?” is asshole behaviour and that is why he got banned.
Get off your high horse. The whole thread is about how the guy got shadow banned after not even directly calling anybody anything to their face. Nobody asked him to stop, and I’m sure he would have if someone had asked them to, same for me. But if were having a casual conversation and you get annoyed by the word “dude”, then I’m probably just going to end up wondering what the hell your problem is because I use “dude” casually all the time.
Nobody banned him because he said “dude”. You’re only trying to pretend that because you refuse to admit you’re wrong. They banned him because he said people who consider the word “dude” to be a gendered term need to “get over it”. This is not hard to understand.
He specifically said in another comment that he would stop if asked. If Lemmy users were punished and held responsible for all these random off-comments taken out of context, half of the user base would be in prison right now, and the other half would be on a watch list for some of the shit I’ve seen people say. Stop choosing to be outraged for the fun of it.
Blahaj mods (especially the one modding ghazi, transgender and 196) are the worst kind of mods. They promote blatant misinformation, remove posts calling said misinformation out, and they ban people and label them transphobes despite there being no transphobic words or implications whatsoever in your comments.
Just block the entire instance and move on. There are better instances that better represent the lgbt community.
Source: my ban message is the same as yours, and I have never said or implied anything remotely transphobic.
