If you want out of the marriage, then this is the time. No point in working on a marriage you don’t want.
If you want to stay then:
Couples counselling. Seriously. It is not cheap, but it’s a lot cheaper than a divorce. It also resolves unhealthy tension and issues in the relationship. You might even get out of it with a lot better marriage than before you cheated.
Do that for a long time. Show that you care by taking initiative, and resolve this with a counsellor and your spouse.
I also believe it is possible to regain trust, and to forgive.
You did a bad thing, but don’t let it define you. Now you got to set it right, show her that you actually care about her. Do the hard work and make the relationship stronger than ever.
You should not tell anyone you cheated, if your wife does, then you have to accept that. She might feel that this affects her honor and standing amongst other people. So let her decide if people should know or not.
Anyways, good luck! Be patient and be kind. You can do it! 👍
If you want out of the marriage, then this is the time. No point in working on a marriage you don’t want.
If you want to stay then:
Couples counselling. Seriously. It is not cheap, but it’s a lot cheaper than a divorce. It also resolves unhealthy tension and issues in the relationship. You might even get out of it with a lot better marriage than before you cheated.
Do that for a long time. Show that you care by taking initiative, and resolve this with a counsellor and your spouse.
I also believe it is possible to regain trust, and to forgive.
You did a bad thing, but don’t let it define you. Now you got to set it right, show her that you actually care about her. Do the hard work and make the relationship stronger than ever.
You should not tell anyone you cheated, if your wife does, then you have to accept that. She might feel that this affects her honor and standing amongst other people. So let her decide if people should know or not.
Anyways, good luck! Be patient and be kind. You can do it! 👍