Hey dads. How’s your day/week/existence going?

My wife, spontaneously (actually to procrastinate), decided to start sorting through our thousands of saved but unsorted phone pictures of the kids etcetera. Kinda magical to revisit some forgotten moments through the years.

Will make it a hell of a lot easier when I finally get round to picking a handful to send to my own parents. (Specifically curated so that when my mum ends up ‘accidentally’ putting another one on Facebook I don’t have to go too nuclear. Just regular firebombing.)

  • SbisasCostlyTurnover@feddit.uk
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    Toddler still hasn’t slept through the night, and if anything his sleep is getting worse. At this point we don’t even get him down in the cot like we used to.

    We absolutely nailed our eldest kids sleep stuff, but with the second everything fell apart.

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      1 year ago

      The fact children are not carbon copies of the previous sibling is incredibly frustrating. We could do it so much better a second time!

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        1 year ago

        It’s honestly starting to effect us as a couple now. I changed my hours to help out, but that’s causing severe burnout on my end. Little man not sleeping is causing burnout for Mummy and yeah, it all feels so utterly hopeless.

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          That’s rough. When our guys had issues, we did the “leave em in bed and let them scream it out” thing. After fifteen minutes we’d go in and soothe them, then wait twenty five before soothing, etc. I don’t think it works for everyone, but it did for us.

          I hope you get it sorted out soon.

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          Hang in there buddy. You and your partner can get through this, and once you do the memory of trouble will fade.

          My daughter cottoned on to the fact painting with poop in her bedroom would get our attention after bedtime. That was so, so, so stressful to deal with at the time. Now, we can look back and laugh about it.

          It feels like a long time now, but later it will be a snapshot of the time and you all will have so many more happy memories to look back on.

          You can get through it. Focus on the little joys, when you can find them.