While the atypical pronoun usage can be confusing, it obviously isn’t a personal attack against you.
Ever since drag started using neopronouns, drag has learned that confusing other people is an act of violence. They genuinely feel hurt by it. Drag isn’t sure exactly why, but it might be an ego thing. Possibly drag is making other people feel stupid when they don’t understand. Whatever the cause is, it’s very clear when people talk about incidents where drag upset someone by using a neopronoun. Random bystanders who’ve never met drag before seem to overwhelmingly agree drag is rude, aggressive, confrontational, forcing the conversation… people could only react that way so strongly if they felt that they saw an attack.
At this point drag has just accepted that using drag’s pronouns is violent behaviour. And drag is going to keep doing it, because people who are uncomfortable seeing neopronouns deserve to feel that way. Either they convince the people in charge to punish drag, they keep on being uncomfortable forever, or they grow up. Drag wants the third to happen.
It reminds me of the early days when I became aware of, and got involved in, the struggle for gay rights.
The whole “don’t shove it down my throat” malarkey. When someone just living their life, and not even talking to you is “shoving it down my throat”, it isn’t the responsibility of that other person to shift their life to preserve your limited world view.
Yeah, the choice of drag specifically when the user name involves dragon isn’t easy to parse. But unless drag is/are (I still suck at the grammar of this) initiating the conversation, it’s a total douche move to pretend that it’s drag’s problem.
So, fuck 'em. At some point, people just need to realize they can just scroll the fuck past and mind their own.
Ever since drag started using neopronouns, drag has learned that confusing other people is an act of violence. They genuinely feel hurt by it. Drag isn’t sure exactly why, but it might be an ego thing. Possibly drag is making other people feel stupid when they don’t understand. Whatever the cause is, it’s very clear when people talk about incidents where drag upset someone by using a neopronoun. Random bystanders who’ve never met drag before seem to overwhelmingly agree drag is rude, aggressive, confrontational, forcing the conversation… people could only react that way so strongly if they felt that they saw an attack.
At this point drag has just accepted that using drag’s pronouns is violent behaviour. And drag is going to keep doing it, because people who are uncomfortable seeing neopronouns deserve to feel that way. Either they convince the people in charge to punish drag, they keep on being uncomfortable forever, or they grow up. Drag wants the third to happen.
It reminds me of the early days when I became aware of, and got involved in, the struggle for gay rights.
The whole “don’t shove it down my throat” malarkey. When someone just living their life, and not even talking to you is “shoving it down my throat”, it isn’t the responsibility of that other person to shift their life to preserve your limited world view.
Yeah, the choice of drag specifically when the user name involves dragon isn’t easy to parse. But unless drag is/are (I still suck at the grammar of this) initiating the conversation, it’s a total douche move to pretend that it’s drag’s problem.
So, fuck 'em. At some point, people just need to realize they can just scroll the fuck past and mind their own.