There are people who have legally changed their first names or last names, and some family members will still call them by their birth surname. I find this extremely disrespectful. What makes it worse is that these same people will say we need to respect peopleās pronouns and respect them, but they donāt respect someone changing their name? If they donāt respect calling people by their new names, then donāt get mad when people donāt respect peopleās pronouns. Iāll go a step further: if those people who donāt respect peopleās names or pronouns are called a racial slur, I donāt care and feel no sympathy. If itās okay for them to be disrespectful to people, then they can be disrespected too.
What? No one does this at the same time, you gave two opposite behaviors.
Maybe @OP didnāt realize this is āunpopular opinionā, and not āvirtually universal opinionā?
Sounds like you must be talking about one individual in particular, personally known to you, who I presume must be an asshat
Canāt say Iāve ever heard of anyone doing thisāif anything, those in trans or queer spaces have been most accepting of name changes regardless of gender, in my experience. So I canāt imagine this is a terribly unpopular opinion.
iā¦ ugh. this is a sore spot.
a relative of mine changed her name and her mother took it really hard. see, sheās notā¦ independent. she finally got an ASD diagnosis at 60 and her mother has had to help her with everything since she was a child. her mother was the only one who would help, because her toxic personality drives everyone away who doesnāt have to be there due to family obligations. also she was named after her grandmother. so this act of changing her name looked from the outside like an act of spite, like a lot of things she does. her mother felt as if she was being pushed away emotionally, while still having to help with everything physical.
i will respect everyoneās chosen name on instinct, but questions like this one brings painful memories.
