Me and my fiance moved in together almost a year ago. With her came a 5 year old flame point male who was a stray for about his first year and a half. And her 3 year old Doberman who gets along with the cat and is a super chill and timid dog. The siamese was a little overweight and very chill. He likes head and cheek scratches on his time and purrs so loud you can hear him the next room over but hates being picked up or his belly touched. He took to me the first year we dated really quickly and would even come seek me out which was weird behavior for him according to family. Fast forward we’ve been in the house for about 6 months and he seems depressed and even less active since moving out of my fiance grandmother’s house. We decided to get him a friend and found a almost exactly 1 year old Angora male who spent his whole life at the shelter. He was billed as being super chill and liked to nap. He immediate let us pet and handle him. We got him the day after christmas 2025 and the introduction phase was not super long but went well and neither cat really bothered with the other one once we let the young one out. Almost 4 months later and its a pretty mixed bag. The older cat is a little more active and ive got him losing weight at a decent pace. He tolerates the other cat and has recently even attempted to lick and play by swatting at him. The not so good is the younger one was not chill at all. He is super hyper. He attempts to jump on, Bite, and chase the older male and the older male either runs away or lays over and hisses without fighting back despite the older being much larger. The older has even started peeing outside of his litter box every couple of weeks for a day or two at a time and he’s never done that before. Some family who have lots of cats and are big into animals told us about a family getting rid of a 5 year old female ragdoll and me and the fiance are considering looking into it thinking maybe the older female will more match the older male and either give the younger male another option to play with or if all else fails we replace the younger male with the older cat and still only end up with 2 instead of 3. We think our first cat is slowly coming around but there’s plenty of moments he’s terrified of the smaller younger cat. Any advice would be helpful. Also anyone have experience with relaxing or anxiety scent products? Our vet mentioned them but I dont know if it’ll help the since the main problem is the older cat being unable to handle rougher play than just swatting at each other or standing up for himself.