I grew up in Guatemala. You might know its one of the most unequal countries in the world - you’re either in the rich class or poor.
I don’t have a degree, don’t have professional level skills or business skills. I worked for everything I had, never had much money. But nothing too bad - usually had enough food.
Two years ago I met a gringa in a tourist spot. I’m good with girls and we ended up sleeping together that night. We are both in out mid-30s.
Then I found out she’s married. Married tourist looking for some cock on vacation - old story.
She has a rich husband and three children. I think she is from a rich family and her husband is also from a rich family, so between them it’s double-rich. She mentioned having “oil rights”, she mentioned multiple homes (I think over 20 rental properties).
Since then, I have done little bits of social media work for her businesses - it is easy work anyone could do, just running the company’s facebook page and stuff. Plus we see each other in the Caribbean/Latin America and sleeping together for a week here and there. Since two years. She started saying “I love you” six months ago.
One time she said, “something something… because you’ve already made your money…”. I didn’t let my reaction show. She assumed I was in her social class!. Just because people assume their life is the normal life. It feels normal to her to have multiple houses and a million a year in passive income (or whatever number), she thinks everyone she meets is probably like that.
Now she is starting a business, has almost finished investor funding. I let her keep thinking I am rich, and I asked for a big salary for my social media role. She is offering me more money than anyone in my village ever had, plus a percentage of the company. If the company works, it could be millions of dollars. I have seen the contract now, and with luck we will sign in one or two months. I can’t fuck it up now.
Yes this is a sin because it is adultery. But I have the opportunity on a plate. The only thing I’ve ever been good at and I can use it to climb the social ladder.
Congratulations. Do what it takes to climb out of poverty, but try not to lose your morals when you get out–that’s a hard thing to do. Lifting other people up is far more rewarding than a fast car, or anything else money can buy. And, while you’re at it, maybe you can teach your girlfriend a thing or two.
Also, remember, you aren’t married (I assume), so you’re not the one cheating, you didn’t break any promises or sign any contract. The worst you’ve done is break an imposed social contract. My wife cheated on me, I didn’t blame the guy she cheated with, I blamed her, she’s the one who took the vows. She could have walked away without cheating, but she chose to cheat instead.
affairs is how you get murdered, just saying still…if it’s your ticket out of poverty do it for a year them ghost their asses i say
This would stop the wife’s assassins: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_man’s_switch#Blackmail
The husband’s assassins tho…
no it won’t, would probably just make em want to kill you more. best just to ghost entirely
blackmailing someone who knows you doesnt work…they can just identify ypu to the police and tell anyone in their circle you just made it up if they care to explain themselves at all. (unless it’s serious pedo shit, and they’re in a position of actual power). the very very act of trying to blackmail someone is generally illegal in most countries, and the police will side with capital 99 times out of 100
just take the $ for a year so, use that position to find another job, then gtfo
Are you one of the investors she expects to fund her new company?
Has she paid you yet for the social media work you’ve already done for her company?
has almost finished investor funding… plus a percentage of the company. If the company works
Careful.
If you have a percentage of her company, are you also on the hook to pay her if it goes tits up? Is there any way you end up in debt if her company fails?
IME they don’t care if they tank their businesses and lose investor money. Claiming bankruptcy ruins poor people, but rich people somehow just give themselves a golden parachute, file the bankruptcy papers like clocking out on a normal workday, and they move on to the next thing. They don’t mind losing other people’s investments, because it’s just money. Meanwhile the staff show up to abandoned offices with locked doors.
Get another set of eyes on that contract if you haven’t already. Any richie-rich would, and if she’s weird about it, it’s possibly a sign she’s messing with you.
cmon how dumb do you think I am
Oooh, so that’s “eating the rich”.
that’s actually hilarious
Serious answer being: use the situation, use the privilege you will get to be an actual human, and not a shell with money. Do NOT burn through your money because they might all unite against you in the end and cut your revenue by social rejection. Once it’s over and you’ve drained those parasitic fuckers out of enough money, NEVER let the people around you know you have money. It will alienate most of them. Find indirect and discreet ways to use your dough for good (and for your own well-being, of course). Avoid rich people mental pipelines (they’re fucked up, they basically just invent serious-sounding stuff to rationalize the fact that they like their comfort, strangling the rest of the world and, apparently, r*ping children). Have a minimum stash somewhere that is only to be used in case of existential emergencies
An appealing but dangerous path. If they’re that rich, what happens to you when the husband finds out? What happens when the woman finds out your origins, or if she gets bored or scared?
There is a distinct possibility she says “I love you” because you treat her like a human being rather than a payday. It’s quite possible you are on a very short list of people who have done so. Whether you continue treating her that way or not is a question you have to face.
You are already deep in this situation. Be mindful that it will change, likely against you. Be careful and cover your ass. Consult with a lawyer, preferably from her own jurisdiction. At minimum review the contract terms with them and figure out your rights and liabilities.
I’m not saying don’t do it, just to be cautious. Plan for as many outcomes as you can. It very likely is the best chance you’ll have to climb the socioeconomic ladder in a world hell-bent on preventing you from doing so. Her wealth is pillaged from your peers and her privilege from a system designed to insulate the rich from the consequences of their actions. Just realize you will also be key with the consequences of your actions as well and you are far less insulated from them.
Best of luck.
Husband finding out is the biggest danger.
I of course have a lot of material to blackmail her, but that is worst-case-scenario.
I don’t think she will get “bored or scared”. If it goes well, I will sign the contract in one or two months, and then I will have the equity. See the title of the post; I am almost home free.
You’re not almost home free and thinking like that is harmful to your future.
You will still have a relationship with her; by scared I mean scared of her husband finding out. Be VERY careful about who you tell about whatever evidence you have and limit the details you share here as well. Taking that route is likely to end poorly for everyone involved.
Make other, less dangerous plans as well. You need to consider and plan for several worst case scenarios. One plan is zero plans. Life is messy at the best of times and your situation is already messy.
Equity frequently has strings attached such as vesting periods or other sale restrictions. You may have to remain an employee for a certain period of time. The equity is only worth something if the company succeeds.
Consult with a lawyer familiar with contract law in the jurisdiction the company is registered in. Don’t mention your evidence, don’t mention the sex or cheating. All they need to know is that you are a professional entering into a business contract. Make sure the language in the contract is legal and determine several exit scenarios.
this is good advice
Facts: blackmail never ends well for anyone. Leveraging secrets ups the ante into very dangerous territory, even lethal. I hope OP gets out before that becomes an attractive solution, unwise and untenable as it is. 🤞🏼
I don’t think its okay to sleep with a married person in general but honestly once the wealth gets to a certain level I think I would not care. Of course that will include you if you get to high up.
Damn, I’m so happy for you man! Ride that wave that life sent your way
Just don’t become a landlord like she is, landlordism is the real sin here
What’s your plan when you get rich? Save it, invest it?
If you can use some help, let me know? Developer and lost my job almost two months ago and so far after hundreds of applications, the only responses I have received have been scammers :(
Having said that, good for you! Don’t worry about the sin part, she is doing that not you. Also, people in those circles are usually extremely unhappy in their marriages and I guarantee you that her husband is cheating on her too. I don’t like to generalize, but I’ve been around many people in those circles and seriously all of them are the same. Vapid, careless, and care only about money
Is it a pig butchering business, she’s opening? Unlikely in this direction, but I gotta ask.
great question
Yes this is a sin because it is adultery.
It’s her sin, assuming you believe in such things.
Not going to judge for taking an opportunity, but cheating is super fucked up regardless of which side you’re on.
I know, but I could potentially get so much benefit out of it
