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  • In the last 50 years? I’d say civilization has evolved. More people can survive for longer and people are mostly safer than they used to be. I think “evolved” is a tricky word though, it invokes a sense of permanence to me. Humanity can never become the ape it evolved from, but civilization can certainly go back to previous states.

    I think it’s more accurate to say civilization has progressed or advanced, at least according to the goals I talked about at first. To me the basic things that motivates humans to create civilizations are: population, life expectancy, and safety. Right now, I’d say we’re stagnant. Some populations are dropping, life expectancy is dropping in some countries, war and unrest are growing. If we haven’t started regressing, we will soon if nothing changes. Yet still inequality, population collapse, and climate change all threaten to destroy what we have and soon too.



  • I may have attachment issues, but I think that’s not really connected to my reactions to what you’re talking about. I’ve heard that ADHD people tend to have rejection anxiety and maybe that’s what’s happening.

    Anyway if I notice a difference in tone with people whether I’m attached or not, I pretty much always have a small anxiety attack. I panic about whether I missed something or if I messed up with something. I used to immediately go into “fix it” mode and I would emphatically try to fix whatever I did to earn that perceived scorn.

    I’ve been getting better though. Now I just ask what’s up when I notice a change. I still panic a bit and asking about it gives me more anxiety, but it’s easier to get over it when they tell me “oh I’m just tired” or whatever.

    It sounds like you worry about hostility and struggle with trusting your environment and the people you care about, but it does sound episodic which I can relate to. You definitely should seek professional help which I am not, but the best tip I could offer is to practice mindfulness and reflection.

    I have anxiety attacks and major depressive episodes and my thoughts often become irrational in those moments and I act like a different person. The best way I’ve been able to manage it is by being able to quickly recognize when it’s happening and isolating myself so I don’t say things I don’t normally feel to people. I just kinda sit somewhere quiet and safe and tell myself it’s just an episode until eventually it goes away and I go on with my day or try again the next day.



  • I’m atheist, but raised as a pretty diligent episcopal. I wouldn’t have any issue dating someone who is religious. I’ve dated a few women with different religious/spiritual views and it was never an issue. I’ve always been fascinated by religions and their histories despite never really believing in one myself.

    I’d honestly be open to the idea of “converting” for someone I love, so long as the culture of their religion is compatible with my existing moral standards. I haven’t been to the point where I’d have to do that, but I don’t see why not to except that I’m not sure if it’s right to simply perform the practices with no belief in the core of it.



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    16 天前

    I’m not gonna lie. At first glance I was disgusted, but on second thought it might not be that bad. There’s a popular pizza place near me that sells these little breaded and fried squares with angel hair pasta inside that are delicious. If this is like that, it might not be so bad.



  • I love driving and I do it professionally now despite being a very anxious person. I felt exactly the same when I was younger and had lots of friends who felt the same. Drive as safely and slowly as you’re comfortable. Don’t let jerks on the road pressure you, they can wait a bit if need be. Over time, you’ll become more comfortable and capable.


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    My friends play games together every night and I join them pretty often. I could game more if I wanted, but I’ve been losing interest. All of us are broke as hell, but no kids, no marriages.

    I think pc spec creep will eventually leave us in a situation where we need to upgrade but can’t afford to and I’m not sure what we’ll do then.


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    Growing up, I lived a lower middle class life. Now, I can only eat once or twice a day and still pay my bills. My parents are in the process of a divorce and selling the house and when that’s done I’ll be homeless.

    My life has never been like the image of poverty, but money has been very tight my whole life. We live in a rundown and neglected suburb, but it’s certainly not a ghetto or slum. I did get some toys growing up and played in sport leagues and very rarely went on trips to places. After I turned 10, money got way tighter for my family and most of my comfort and luxury has come from working and buying my own stuff. Luckily my parents are too prideful to shake me down for money which is normal for other poor parents to do to their kids around here.

    I don’t think there’s too much a middle class person has experienced that I haven’t, but I’ve spent my adult life so far by spending as little on my day to day as possible so I can afford to go out and enjoy life. Last week, I went to a fancy indoor gokart place and ate at a restaurant after with some friends and another day I went to street festival. This week, I’ve eaten 7 times total and haven’t gone anywhere. Eventually I’ll leave this overpriced shit hole, but I’m trying to hunker down and not shake anything up while The Orange Emperor reigns.


  • Kingdom Hearts 2. I think my parents randomly got it with the ps2 slim they got me for christmas or a birthday when I was a kid. I knew nothing about final fantasy or anime, but I absolutely loved disney movies. I don’t really know too well why it got me hooked so much. I had a head injury when I was 15, and have heavy amnesia of my life before it. The fact I remember so much about that time is really a testament to the impact it had on me.

    I remember the aesthetic was completely new to me and I thought it was really cool. In hindsight final fantasy characters hanging out in disney movies is pretty weird, but they just looked like really cool guys fighting evil in the background of the movies.

    Roxas’ story was also super compelling for kid me, the entire prologue felt dreamlike, emotional, and thought provoking. It was like I was playing a novel. For context, the games I had played up until that point were essentially just pokémon, spyro, smash bros, and mario kart. So the idea that a game could be emotional and have an interesting story was completely new to me.

    Now I can see the flaws and oddities in the series, but I still love it and it’s had a ridiculous impact on my life. I sometimes worry a little that if the people in my life played the series they might see the inspiration for so many habits I have now and pretty much my entire sense of style is heavily influenced by the idea of Tetsuya Nomura design blended with disney vibes.


  • You mentioned drinking. Did you drink a lot in the past? I’m no expert, but my understanding is that heavy drinking creates fat around your abdominal organs which is harder to work off. It’s also possible you put on a bit of water weight from creatine if you used that while working out. I don’t know the best way to quickly work either case off, but it should fade over time if you exercise regularly and avoid or limit those substances.

    Regardless of those thoughts, the best advice would come from asking your doctor.


  • Yeah, I grew up with parents that didn’t believe in adhd despite my diagnosis and they were pretty harsh. I got bullied at school too, but my school was really big so I just got exiled to the group of other adhd kids and still had plenty of friends. Im definitely fucked up from it all, but I think I’ve grown a lot and learned about managing it and have become way better at giving emotional support than my parents.

    So, I think I still want to have kids. My main hesitation is just my current financial situation as well as the generally bleak outlook of the world. Hopefully by the time I decide I’m stable enough to have kids, things will be better.


  • It is not a “counter to religion”. Religion and science are both ways to find explanations for things, but they’re not a binary nor even on the same spectrum. They both have aspects to them with no parallel from the other. Science doesn’t define morality and religion doesn’t engineer buildings for example.

    I said “counter religion” because people treat it like a stand in for religion. Science fundamentally doesn’t declare truth. Scientific theories can and have been wrong, yet some people act as though it’s unquestionable and anything not scientifically proven isn’t true. Those people also tend to really identify with believing they’re right, almost exactly like any smug religious person.





  • It would definitely strike me as odd, but I don’t think I’d be too bothered by it. Sometime people talk a bit faster than they think. Is it a disease or a mental illness or a learning disability? To some people the vocabulary can be a bit muddy and I understand that.

    If they treat me like I’m sick or disabled over an extended period of time, that would offend me. I never met someone who did that, but I’m not afraid of confrontation. I’d just call them out. That usually weeds out the people willing to change from those unwilling.


  • I’m a huge fan of both roguelikes and the souls series and I burned out pretty quick on nightreign. I think my main problem was that the game was all gas, no brakes. It’s frantic and fun at first, but it quickly becomes “the longest boss run up ever” as I’ve heard others say.

    They streamlined the souls part of the game to maintain the speed, but they streamlined out the main fun of souls games to me. Every souls game I’ve played was “oh this weapon looks cool, let me try to make a build around it that works”. In nightreign, you figure out the best builds and hope to luck into it. Sure you can try to make a crappy weapon work, but you end up just wasting everyone’s time if you don’t and you may not see that weapon in the next run which makes practicing it way less effective.