If your goal is 4 walks a week and it takes 6 months to consistently get 1 walk a week in, thats still progress.

Not doing things like walking or other things that have been proven good for mental health when you have depression is akin to not getting treatment for cancer. Some people still die from cancer while on treatments, but a lot more of them survive than the ones that don’t attempt treatment.

You can find new role models, you can build new supports for those weaker floors and maybe even completely renovate some of them with enough work. You can theorize the new floors you want to build and rework your existing floors to get there.

Thats a hard decision to make, congrats on having the courage to take that step in your life.

Much like mental illness. Your depression doesn’t stop you from working out or going for a walk, but it might make it really really hard to start. You can use that as an excuse and never start or you can acknowledge this is why you never want to start. You just have to do it, or rely on someone to get you to do it like a good friend or partner.

If you let depression stop you from walking you’ll never walk and get the benefits from it which could help you beat or mitigate depression. Maybe after 2 years of daily walks you won’t be depression free, but its almost guaranteed you’ll be doing better.

Exactly. If you’re 12 and you can’t legally be employed and independent, you can very much blame your parents for a lot of your circumstances. As you age this gets less relevant. I have a couple friends in their 30s whom live at home and never really had jobs or finished school. A lot of them still blame their upbringing which could have put them on this path, but at this point the path they continue to walk is their responsibility. Its gonna be hard, its gonna suck sometimes, you’re gonna have to take risks and things might get worse before they get better, but taking your own responsibility for it is often your best course of action.

Sometimes being able to blame yourself for certain things is good, it can help you grow and learn. If your parents have failed you for 30 years, why are you still banking on them as part of your plan? Not to say you have to abandon them full stop, they may still be worth keeping in your life but you have to start directing your own life and taking your own responsibility for it.

Maybe your parents didn’t care enough about school when you were a kid, as an adult its time to take that into your own hands, many places offer free high school equivalence programs to catch up and often help get you employed afterwards. It might be a shitty job, but its not their fault you waited til 30 to start and now have no relevant skills or experience to advertise. Work that shitty job for a few months and at least it becomes a point on your resume for the next job. It can let you develop universal skills like time management and meal planning which can better prepare you for future positions.

I can’t blame you if you didn’t get a head start, but i can blame you if you don’t even participate in the game.

Don’t care, gonna make life take the lemons back anyway!

The machine was preprogrammed with over 1000 unique belittlements prerecorded by Cave himself which would play randomly each time a lemon was launched.

First i determine what quality of product i really need so I can shop in that range. Do i need a modern high performance mountain bike, an entry level quality bike, or just a cheap mass produced bike thats good enough for my needs?

Then i do extensive research often reading multiple reviews and articles. I look for whats mentioned most frequently and what isn’t mentioned, also for how consistent things are between reviews. I’m sure some of what i encounter is marketing or bot comments but some may be still legitimate as well.

I also look for guides on what to consider if its something I’m new to so i can compare any stats included with the product. The material and quality of the product can be a big factor as well, generally the better the product the more likely they are to brag about its construction. Are they bragging about a certain reinforcement, weight reduction, or power level?

Looking at the reputation of the retailer can be useful as well. A shoe store with 4.8 star reviews is likely to have better quality and selection of shoes than wal-mart. Sometimes you can sniff out the quality brands this way then find those brands for a better price somewhere online.

Going to a brands website can sometimes give you a hint. Are they proud of their products, have easy to access support and lots of details/downloads available or is all the information vague or poorly translated? A quality brand is more likely to have a quality website but this isn’t always the case, especially for niche products that are being produced by small time businesses like specialty equipment.

I dont even think it was stupid i think bro was trying his best given no training and the circumstance. You see it all the time in bodycam footage they often dumb stuff down to the level of a parent scolding a kid. The cop was trying to sympathize while also pointing out hey this isn’t a great solution without coming off as you can’t do that because i said so or pretending to know whats going on in their head. Just straight to the point this isn’t a great idea.

Ah yes, The Aperature Laboratories Life Gives You Lemons Launcher, a tool developed to inspire the technicians working on the combustible lemon to work faster.

I’m comfortable driving a lot of highways faster than the posted limited, i choose not to most of the time because of the ticket risk and financial impact that it can bring. 10-15 over is generally accepted as not ticketable and I’ll often set the cruise if equipped around that speed to prevent getting a ticket. There are others like me who will be going faster now by using their cruise or self control to maintain their speed.

Average speeds may not have changed much, that is far more to do with poor enfrocement than it is with the limit itself. Design is a factor but harder to narrow down for a highway like it would for a city street trying to calm speeds. A highway has to accomadate a 20 year old sedan, a large transport, a modern sports car, and a pickup truck at high speeds. Making it safe for the transport to maintain 110 is going to make it feel safer to go a lot faster in a sports car or modern SUV.

Actually average speeds are likely to increase by 10-15 kms/h. Instead of feeling safe doing 115 in 100 zone they’ll do 125 in a 110 zone cause “a cop can’t count that as speeding”

I may be a little lost here. Your bio and post says you’re bisexual, you got a crush on someone, watched some girl on girl porn cause this person was on your mind and now you’re feeling down. I think your issue with this is less about being gay or any other sexuality and more about your affection to anyone that likes you. If you like someone and you get aroused by them thats totally fine. Theres nothing to be ashamed of there. You can still question why you like them and whether or not it’s a fit for your life. Rubbing one out is a common tactic people use to determine if they want to pursue someone romantically/sexually. *

In my opinion, if this frustrated you enough to watch some lesbian porn, you probably like girls at least a little bit. What it means to you only you can discover.

Well i think before you can “fix” it you need to be sure why you feel bad about it in the first place. Is it society, family pressure, nervousness, post nut clarity/disgust (or whatever the girl equivalent of that is)? Like if you feel bad cause you feel like you just wanted to get off or do you feel bad because of what others might think of it.

In hindsight, you could’ve used a bandana for the drips

There are some concerns with age gaps. 28 dating 58 is much different than 18 dating 48. The 28 year old has likely had time to develop as an adult and likely has their own independence. A lot of the younger people I’ve met in age gap relationships have a history of sexual abuse, trauma, and poor independence (either financial or other). At that point it starts being more like a groomer relationship IMO.

I think its the pants causing that illusion. His legs aren’t massive but they do seem pretty toned.

Idk i feel like most beaches this is pretty acceptable. In my experience if you walk further from the parking lot you get more seclusion and peace. IMO a reasonable volume on a speaker isn’t any more disturbing than kids playing which is expected at the beach.

I tend to mostly browse my local city/regional news, some of which have comments on the articles, which is the cesspool you expect but sometimes entertaining. I’ll comment on some articles on Lemmy but otherwise don’t really participate in social media discussions of news unless a friend specifically messages me an article.