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Cake day: January 29th, 2024

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  • Congrats on coming out and being your true self, that was a very brave thing to do.

    Your mother, like many parents, had hopes and dreams about who you would become as a person. She’s now being faced with the prospect that those hopes and dreams are dead, that the person she thought you would become is gone. She’s going to need to grieve and from what you’ve written here it seems that process has started. Shock, denial, bargaining, some level of acceptance. I expect anger and depression might show up at some point. It doesn’t necessarily happen in sequence and can cycle too. She’s going to need some time to process, but what’s positive is she’s not outright rejecting who you are, there’s room for her to grow.

    My parents weren’t hostile when I came out as gay, but I heard similar things - it’s just a phase. Are you sure? Was it something we did? Where did we go wrong? What will your life become? Over time they came to accept it and told my extended family (including my very religious Pentecostal grandmother). Everyone is now very welcoming of my wife and my parents are delighted to be grandparents to our kids. I know it’s not the same, but there is hope for things to get better, just keep being authentically you.




  • Disclaimer: I’m a lesbian so I don’t have a dog in this fight, but I’m not surprised women vote more for the photo on the left. He just seems friendlier and more approachable, someone you would have fun hanging out with, so I guess that anecdotally gives credence to what the author is saying. The photo on the right looks like someone who’s a bit too intense, and I say this as someone who is also trying to get somewhat ripped. It’s funny because when I’m at the gym almost a lot of times I assume the super ripped dudes working out there are bi or gay, and more often than not I’m right. I know it’s judging a book by its cover, but clearly that aesthetic appeals to other guys (who are also into guys).


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    15 days ago

    I refuse to get a phone without a headphone jack. Mostly because I know I’m inevitably going to lose my headphones, forget to charge them, forget them in my trouser pockets that will go in the wash. The latter has happened at least a couple of times with my current headphones and they still work just fine. Try that with your Bluetooth pair and let me know how it goes.





  • Foreigner@lemmy.worldtoCasual UK@feddit.ukClassic cuisine
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    British cooking has a bad reputation, but they make really good comfort food. Sunday roast, yorkshire pudding, steak and ale pies, shepherd’s/cottage pie, full english breakfast, pasties, fish pie, beef wellington, scones! I could go on. Sure it’s mostly brown and beige food but cooked properly all of these dishes are really tasty!










  • I think the fundamental difference between that experiment and the “suicide capsules” vs the death penalty is that in the *former the people going into it are doing so willingly. I imagine people undergoing the same procedure involuntarily will probably resist, hold their breath, panic, do whatever they can to sabotage the process, etc. The reason this method is rarely used to euthanise pets is precisely because of this - the animals get stressed (as many often do at the vet where they need to be for the procedure) panic, react, and it takes way longer than it should as a result.

    Edit: edited for clarity