Jenniferr [she/her, comrade/them]

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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • Hey I read your whole thing. I just went through a somewhat similar situation with my now ex fiance. The way I see this situation is that it’s fucked and it sucks but it’s also an incredibly difficult situation for the both of you. Like your wife, my ex did not react well.

    And when you said “And after many lengthy discussions, we’ve realized that I have kind of resorted to living within an alternate reality in my head where I perceive her in a way that isn’t true. For example, I was convinced every time we talked about my gender that she understood I wasn’t a man at all.” I realized I was doing that exact thing. But there was a reason for this compartimentalization - it was because I didn’t feel safe with her. In my situation it wasn’t just my ex getting panicky but verbally berating me whenever my gender was brought up.

    To be honest, I think the severity of the situation Can excuse some shitty remarks from both sides here. It’s very stressful and I don’t think either of you should really worry about that. Further, in an ideal world ig both of you have done “wrong” things. But like, no. This sounds a lot like the situation that i wrnt through. In my situation, she feels like i betrayed her. I just feel bad for her though.

    That being said, I think you have to come to terms with the fact that it’s very very likely this relationship is ending. I’m sorry comrade. But she laid out her hard lines and yeah I’m sorry