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  • Wells Fargo used to do that to me.

    We charged you to transfer money from your savings account to your checking account.

    Yeah because that robot needed to be reimbursed for their time lost moving MY money from one account to another.

    I had money transferred into savings because that was the requirement to have a “free” checking account despite me not wanting to use their bullshit savings account. It finally led to me canceling it because “you transfer too often from your savings account” and they cited this stupid law that says I can only transfer from savings so many times before triggering yet another fee that goes to the bank.

    Fuck all these big banks and the banking system that enables this shitty behavior.





  • This is me on nearly every level.

    But my little sister just ends up getting drunk, eating all the food and falling off the boat hahaha. So we put her ass in the jail sell till she sobers up.

    When I first read this, I thought your sister was doing this IRL lol

    My brother and I played a few times, but he’s not into it.

    I like playing alone sometimes but then it gets boring and repetitive playing by myself. I’m not into PvP either so I’m okay with meeting AI enemies, but as soon as another human comes around, I usually noped out because I just don’t want to be bothered.


  • Because most cheaters will repeat the behavior again. At least, that’s the way it appears. I don’t have statistics to back that up, but this is what a lot of people believe.

    And they may not necessarily be wrong because most things you do, you’ll do again, especially something as heinous as cheating, which is a betrayal of someone you supposedly have a lot of love and care for yet can go behind their back and do things with someone else that was meant only for that person who’s special to you. Many cheaters have an attitude of “who cares? It wasn’t that big of a deal.” which minimizes the act and seems like a way to justify it if it happens again or gets close to that point.

    I wouldn’t put cheating on the same level as murder, but I think it’s more similar to abuse and may be classified as a type of emotional abuse on some level. It’s really harmful and damaging and can be traumatic. I’ve dated some women who were cheated on and it changed their lives so much and made them very insecure and somewhat broken for future relationships. My last ex was a mess from her spouse cheating on her and leaving her and it greatly affected our relationship and how she interacted with me and eventually led to our downfall.

    People care about the person who was cheated on and don’t want them to be hurt again. They know the hardship that person endured and the pain they felt and don’t want them to experience more pain if that happens again, which seems likely to many people. And like abuse, if a friend told me their partner was abusing them, I’d feel very concerned especially if they have decided to get back together with this person after going through that. And I and many others feel very similarly about cheating.

    And in the case of relationships, it is super easy to overlook someone’s bad qualities and even evil deeds because of how you feel about them. I, to this day, struggle with reminding myself of the evil things some of my exes did to me that caused us to break apart and instead have “rose tinted glasses” and want them back despite the hell they put me through. Good friends remind you of the reality of that person and that relationship and do so because they care.

    That’s not to say that cheating should never be forgiven and you should always be branded as a cheater and never experience real love and you can never fully stop cheating. Nor to say that your boyfriend is wrong and you will most definitely cheat again. No, not saying that in the slightest.

    Just saying, that’s where most people come from and I hesitate to say that they’re wrong up to a certain point.

    If I were a friend of your boyfriend’s, I’d likely be in that camp too, telling him that I feel he’s making a bad decision to continue in the relationship with you for the cheating alone, just on that basis. But there does come a time where as a friend, you should back off and let someone make their own choices for their own life, you’ve given them everything you hope is truth and will benefit their life, and you earnestly hope and pray that you’re proven wrong and the decision they’ve made ends up working well for them. Thankfully cheating isn’t life ending, so no worries there, but a broken heart can last years and is really damaging and sad. No one wants to see their friend get hurt again if they really care about them.


  • That’s a tough place to be. And on behalf of someone who was like this, I’m sorry.

    There’s really no way to win here. Your son doesn’t want you to be the cool mom, but at the same time, he doesn’t want you to be cold or mean. You’re dealing with an irrational person who doesn’t know what they want from their mom.

    The best you can do is to keep trying but expect rejection most times. Don’t overdo it, but don’t stop either. I think you have good motives, and your son probably realizes it too, but you’re dealing with chemical hormones right now and there’s no real ways to beat it except patience and waiting.

    I’m sorry, it’s a hard place to be and I’m remembering how I was towards my mom during that time.

    I agree with the other person here. I don’t think you need to abide by your son’s rules like telling you to stay in your room. No, you still need to be the mother and be firm especially because kids get into some bad things and sometimes you need to know when your son is hanging with the wrong crowd. Not that you need to hover over them in his room, but you should be able to be in the kitchen or living room. He still needs to respect you and that’s not irrational to expect that for yourself.