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  • What am I missing?

    Context.

    In a formal social context — i.e. 13 year old performs at a piano recital — we’d say “young woman/lady” to elevate and show respect for their effort.

    In a familiar social context, I might call that same kid “twerp” because she stole my clicky pen to stim with.

    In a criminal context, we’re talking about agency.

    Young women (18+) can be independent, have a job, make decisions about their lives. They have enough agency to say yes to having sex with an older man.

    Children (<18) can’t give informed consent like that, which makes sex with an older man automatically sexual abuse.

    The press is being accused of implying that the victims (children who did not have the agency to give consent) belong to a category that can consent to sex with old men (young women) in a context (criminal) where agency matters.












  • Users are trapped by the network effect and a desire for ease of use over anything else.

    The corporate alternatives will always be an easier sell.

    Twitter > Bluesky
    Instagram > Upscrolled
    TikTok > RedNote
    Reddit > no corporate alternative
    YouTube > no corporate alternative
    Discord > no corporate alternative

    To get the average user, you don’t just have to convince them to leave Twitter, you have to convince them to leave corporate social media and all of their friends that still use it.

    You have to convince them to accept additional inconvenience and complexity (@usernames and @instancenames?) in exchange for no direct, tangible benefit. (We know it’s worth it, but the average user doesn’t know and doesn’t care.)

    The people who could handle that are already here. Adoption going forward will be (at best) a slow trickle until we reach some level of critical mass.

    Why people don't leave Reddit

    Reddit has the advantage of years of community-built knowledge, and it’s a “one-stop shop”. Looking for the gaming community? Go to reddit, type in gaming, it’ll be in the top 3, if not the top 10.

    Go to the threadiverse, and you have to run the gauntlet of servers (what’s an instance?), deferated instances (why can’t I see XYZ?), and 20 communities with similar names (which gaming community is the “real” one?). The switching cost is too high for most as long as Reddit still exists.

    Why people don't leave Discord

    Discord is easy to set up, and they’re digging their claws into game dev by making it easy to monetize communities (enshittification, here we come!).

    Revolt Stoat isn’t federated, so each server is segregated from the others. As they grow, users will centralize for the sake of convenience. My bet is they either sell out or remain a niche alternative.

    Element is (still) too complicated and unreliable. Audio sharing is inconsistent (no audio streaming on desktop screenshare, mics won’t work, etc). Video calls aren’t fully implemented.

    Why people won't leave YouTube

    No one can match YouTube’s sheer scale. They have billions of videos and billions of users. Their monetization system means that creators are incentivized to create quality content for the platform.

    By contrast, PeerTube’s best content is often mirrors or backups of content from other platforms. PeerTube is a great backup, but without monetization to incentivize creators, it’s not a real alternative.








  • My main takeaway is that I will keep this method next year. I believe that students are confronted with their own use of chatbots. I also learn how they use them. I’m delighted to read their thought processes through the stream of consciousness.

    Like every generation of students, there are good students, bad students and very brilliant students. It will always be the case, people evolve (I was, myself, not a very good student). Chatbots don’t change anything regarding that. Like every new technology, smart young people are very critical and, by defintion, smart about how they use it.

    The problem is not the young generation. The problem is the older generation destroying critical infrastructure out of fear of missing out on the new shiny thing from big corp’s marketing department.