Most of the stuff I highlighted about Phillip were one-off occurances that happened exactly once, but I think any one of the things I mentioned about him should have been my cue to run as far away from the group as possible. On a day-to-day basis, he clearly wanted to do what Jesus would do and be a giving, empathetic, nonjudgmental person who literally gave me the shirt off his back once and metaphorically did so five other times. Which is why I stuck around. 99% of the time he was one of the most stand-up guys I knew, and the remaining 1% of the time he drops a red flag the size of Texas.
I think it’s also important to note that he was surrounded by LGBTQ+ people, and he chose this friend group. We lived in a pretty red part of my state. There’s lots of people in his area who share his worldview, and he’s chosing to hang out with us sinners. Why he did so will forever be beyond me. I think he’s just not being honest with himself, like most people. People aren’t logical critters.
Thank you! That was very validating to hear. That said, if I said the ADHD was 100% managed now that would be a fucking lie, but I do have actual coping mechanisms that work instead of drinking brain-damage amounts of coffee lol. Progress is progress 🤷♂️