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Cake day: June 8th, 2019

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  • Most Italian women I know would have a panic attack if they went out with a tracksuit or a pajama like Americans do. That’s stuff that only happens in nightmares and if you’re 20 in a slum outside of Milan. Anyway Rome is not considered particularly fashionable in Italy. You find the highest attention for this stuff in most cities in the North, with Milan being the center of the fashion industry and smaller towns being more bougie, and then in the South with the “show off the bling bling” culture more common throughout the Mediterranean. In the North, the minimum is to dress like for a fashion show, in the South the minimum is to dress like for a wedding. In the center they care less.






  • Because it’s a normal, common interaction among humans, not particularly charged politically if there’s no power relationship between the two people. This guy is not asking for nudes to an intern, for instance.

    Public exhibition of sexual desire is acceptable in most contexts. If there’s a topic of sexism, it is in the fact that men doing this is more acceptable than women doing it, but this should be addressed by removing the stigma from women doing it rather than adding stigma to men doing it.

    But more generally, the policing of celebrities personal behavior to conform to strong social mores is a mostly protestant thing. In other cultures, especially before modernity or globalization, fame allowed you exactly to escape the commonplace social mores because you were outside of the community. Taking celebrities as role models and therefore asking them for moral behavior is a very American thing to do, even though after WW2 this system has been pushed throughout the world.


  • Pathetic maybe, but being pathetic is still not wrong. Creepy I wouldn’t say so. Creepy implies an indirectness and second motives: here he’s being very direct and his motives are clear.

    I don’t ask for nudes, because I have no particular interest in nudes and I prefer when they are sent spontaneously. But I deliberately post horny memes on main, where I have professional contacts, to fight against cringe culture and sex-negativity.





  • I have a partner who happens to be American and hates the Puritanism back home that wants everybody to erase their desires. In the rest of the world, sexual desire is normal, even when you’re doing something serious with your life. And in the end, this guy’s request for nudes probably has nothing to do with sex, but with validation and proximity, but the idea that talks about sex are never about actual sex is probably inconceivable in this conversation.

    By the way I’m not defending the guy. I’m attacking the pearl-clutching moralists who demand inhumane behavior from humans. The guy looks a bit like a loser for doing so, but there’s a difference between being light and being harmful.