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Cake day: 2023年6月13日

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  • I’ve had several friends and family who got into this state and took a few months or years to decide what they wanted.

    Of them, most were just taking a break from the emotional labour of dating, which I totally get. Some went back to online dating but others didn’t intentionally look for a relationship until something fell in their lap (a new coworker, etc).

    Some just never dated again. I know a couple people in their 60s/70s who had just had enough and were perfectly happy to live alone.

    IMO there’s nothing wrong with taking this approach, and I think the best way to go in is to just say “I’m not dating right now”. Don’t say never again and don’t set an artificial timer when you need to jump back in.

    Things often work out if you don’t try to force yourself into doing or not doing something. Read how you’re feeling in the moment and go from that. It removes so much of the pressure on yourself to do or think certain things.


  • I was taught this in driving school. If you’re the last car slowing down, leave a gap of a few car lengths so if a car behind you is going to hit you, it gives you some room to escape either to move up, or enough room to turn out of the lane.

    That sounds like some kind of superhero fantasy to me. In what scenario am I about to be rear ended and have enough time to move my car safely?

    I usually leave enough space that I could turn into another lane without having to reverse, so if the car in front of me stalls I can go around without too much fuss. That’s like half a car length at best.














  • So is the issue that your extra drive mounts to /storage, but that happens after Docker has already started and taken over the directory, so the mount fails? Normally I’d expect it to happen in the other order. Is this a weird race condition?

    This might be a good thing to run through with ChatGPT- there are probably ways to delay the Docker container start, but maybe there’s a more significant misconfiguration you can deal with.





  • I’d actually advise a low tech solution here. You can buy paper agendas designed for exactly this sort of thing, and we used one for my daughter.

    There’s some benefits:

    • it’s always where you need it, because it’ll always live beside the changing pad/table
    • if there’s a “guest diaper changer”, they can use it
    • if you’re tracking a late night feeding or change, you can scribble in the data without getting blasted by your phone backlight
    • it’s a physical memento from that time you can flip through later

    The cons include needing to look somewhere else for the time, which means checking your phone or a wall clock since that paper ain’t gonna tell you.

    If you do go the app route, look into the accessibility settings on your phone to help with glaring backlight. On iOS, you can map the Siri button to apply a different black point, which basically toggles to a much darker backlight than you’d normally get.

    Now, whenever I’m lurking around the kid while she’s sleeping, I just triple-tap that button and it dims my backlight to something that won’t disturb her.