

Others mentioned that it sounds hardware related. That reminded me that you should visually inspect all ports, especially unused ones. I had a system locking up constantly once and it turned out to be from debris in a usb port on one of the monitors was causing a short. It’s something that wont necessarily cause logged errors and can cause seemingly random behaviour that will have one chasing problems that don’t exist. USB ports and DVI plugs especially can be hard to notice with how they are constructed. Audio jack holes too. Make sure there’s no breaks in any cords. It seems too simple to be true and then it happens and you feel foolish for not having thought of it.








On the part about “get out”, I saw he could have been dreaming or sleeptalking and I wanted to say that too. I’m told I talk in my sleep. Talk is an understatement. I’m told I say extremely hurtful, offensive, vicious things in my sleep, often directed towards people who I have no ill feelings against. I’m talking about cussing, insulting their personality traits, going down deeply psychological analysis of them, using words an phrases that aren’t common (as in rarely used, often intellectual words) screaming, punching and kicking in the air as if I were fighting them, all sorts of stuff very out of character of me.
I try to warn people about it if I’m planning on sleeping around them but even with a heads up, people usually aren’t prepared for the things I’m told I say. I didn’t even know I did it for a very long time, then after one friend had a serious talk with me about it and I shared the conversation with family members did I learn that it is a very common thing for me to do and I’ve been doing ever since I could first speak.
Maybe it’s some sort of mental illness or repression or something but for the most part, the people I’m told I scream at when I’m asleep are people I deeply care about and never does my conscious mind ever have these thoughts or an urge to scream at anyone.
So it could be a red flag that the guy said “get out” but it still could be a sleep talking thing that he doesn’t even know he does. I would bring it up with him directly in a non-confrontational but still serious manner. Ask him if he remembers doing it and what it meant. How he responds should help you decide if he is worth pursuing.
As for the ghosting, I’ve always used a ‘three strikes and your out’ rule. Things come up, I get it. If they come up a lot, they’re out of my life.