https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce950111xk7o

bump - it’s live

oh my god. i’m happy for you, but wow. i haven’t shopped around (doing another round of laser atm) but a place that’s been recommended locally is £145 ($195 US) per hour

wild that they’d just leave this out on the windowsill

it’s fine to just not have a gender and it’s fine to flip-flop on that at any point for any reason. gender is just kind of weird, and i think that the more you think about it, the more arbitrary and nonsensical it seems. if you think you’re some kind of outlier around other trans people, you probably just need to meet more trans people.

for your hair, the hairdresser can cut it into layers (i.e. change the shape of it so that it sits better) without taking from the length. and it sounds like you probably want an undercut, which is the correct and proper choice. maybe have a scroll on pinterest for inspo? https://uk.pinterest.com/ideas/curly-undercut-women/903783996609/

that sounds really nice. what was your starting point like and approximately how many sessions have you had?

thank you! i wouldn’t recommend cutting your own if you have straight hair, but waves and curls are good at hiding mistakes

maybe you could ask a colourist for a consultation so you at least have an idea of cost. or if you don’t need peroxide, maybe you could try painting on some temporary colours (get a dye brush and bowl, sectioning clips, and arrange two mirrors so you can see behind your head). anti-dandruff shampoo will help to get the colour out faster if you don’t like it

fairly sure i’ve been a bit manic for the past few weeks so my impulse control is lacking and i’ve spent way more than i can afford

BUT… i have a new haircut and colour (i’ve been cutting it myself for 8+ years because poor - this is my first professional fem cut), new glasses (i stopped wearing my old ones years ago because they were manly), a new piercing (i daren’t do this one myself), i started round 2 of laser (tria isn’t doing anything any more), and i’ve bought some new (to me) clothes (still don’t have a complete fem wardrobe though)

oh and i modified my workout earlier this year to focus more on butt/thighs and it’s working

i’m feeling more comfortable with myself than i have in a long time (even made a new friend!), but i feel awful about spending so much money. but idk, it’s gender self-care i think?

imo the trailer is doing all the usual stereotypes so that queer existence can be framed as a debate where both sides “go too far” and there’s a “happy medium” to be found. reactionary filth https://www.imdb.com/title/tt35768911/

it’s when you eat animals. your depravity causes you to have their blood on your hands, and also in your mouth

see the “content warnings” section here: https://hexbear.net/code_of_conduct

please add a cw for bloodmouthery

A far-too-small strapless sports bra works quite well I find. Probably not good if you do actually want breast growth though

Yes please!

update:

Got my hair done just in time for alternative pride (free, non-corpo, very nice politics) this weekend but my friend is sick. So I might maybe go alone. It’ll probably be fine, right?

On mobile right now and I prefer the longer paragraphs. So thank you.

i don’t mean to promote mindless consumerism but clothes are unfortunately kind of consumables and sometimes you do just have to replace them

have you done the trans rite of passage going round charity shops (second-hand / thrift stores) yet? it’s a very cheap way to replace your wardrobe and figure out your style. and tbh charity shops are just good anyway. or maybe try vinted (if they have it in your country) if you don’t have the confidence to go fem shopping in person yet

Thank you. Yes, I probably should do that but I’m not sure if my discomfort at making a phone call is greater or lesser than that of wearing a face mask. Ooh but email exists so maybe

Glad it’s working! Tbh I’ve never heard of it before but I guess I’ll just wear a face mask with my hair down

new hazing ritual:

PATCH TEST & CONSULTATION: Please arrive for your patch test with full hair growth to all treatment area(s). This is to monitor your hair-loss journey. We will shave a small area to carry out the patch test on the day.

the last place never did this to me. how awful.