the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]

41f artsy late-dx AuDHD married to 42m machine whisperer, teen son trans & also ADHD. We do outdoor equipment & small engine repair from our home, give remote assistance for diy, & make instructional videos. ❤️ dogs, cats, chickens, guineas ❤️

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Cake day: August 13th, 2023

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  • re: OCD, some podcaster or YouTuber I was listening to who is diagnosed mentioned that theirs primarily presents as social obsession, and described many things I strongly related to (including having “hangxiety” for days after every social function, not just drunken ones), so I did some searching and read some firsthand stuff on Reddit, and yeah.

    I wonder if this is another situation where I am doing something and I think everybody else does this too and just handles it better. Like, I know over-analyzing and extended processing are both autistic traits, but I am beginning to wonder if maybe mine is cranked up to 11 and everyone else is cruising around 5-7.

    The hangxiety thing was just one part of it, there were other obsessive thought patterns I related to, physical symptoms I share, and some checking behaviors that I’m also doing. It was a lot to unpack, but I don’t have time for that right now, so I stuffed that box in the corner. 😂










  • There’s a perfect spot for a greenhouse against the south-facing side of my house, very close to the gutter drain. 🤩 I can combine my rain barrel wishes with my greenhouse wishes with my BSF wishes and my worm wishes.

    I wish I could spend a day with you walking through my daily life and have you tell me all this stuff I wish I knew about all of it. You are amazing, and I am so grateful every time I get to soak up some of your knowledge. Thank you so much!

    Please feel free to infodump about greenhouses and rain barrels too! 😂








  • Your coping strategies, such has having a bag you always carry with you which contains everything you could possibly need - food, an umbrella, spare medication, etc. because otherwise you will be unprepared and you’ll forget everything. Or it might be having strategic caches of meds at your parents’ house, your partner’s house, your work desk etc. because you always forget to take your meds and to bring them with you. Or it might be a complete dependence upon an electronic calendar and alarms to tell you what you’re supposed to be doing and when but without this your life would immediately collapse. That sort of thing.

    😂

    it’s still funny to me that 2 years ago, I genuinely didn’t know that having an everything bag, chipmunk caches, and an obsession with my calendar weren’t standard behaviors - really, truly, I thought everyone just hid it better than I did 😂🤦