I also feel like users assume Lemmy is a lot more developed than it is.

Reddit went through several back end changes as it grew over time, and Lemmy has done very little in that regard.

You also have such a small user base that Lemmy isn’t important. Once Lemmy becomes important, it is going to need to deal with a lot of issues that it currently isn’t designed to deal with.

Lemmy is going to need to learn to scale.