Not that people having already heard them has ever stopped me from re-telling them anyway.

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    16 hours ago

    I don’t like that though, being on the receiving end. Thinking about how you’ve done this with other girls. Not a good feeling…

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      15 hours ago

      You’re right about that but I don’t think that’s what the post was about. It’s not “so this what happened when my ex and I went to this store”. It’s more “what do you call a fake potato? An imitator!” that joke may be funny once, but not funny on the 32nd telling. Don’t try to relive experiences with an ex with your new partner, telling a store of how you were held at gun point by police for committing a bank robbery while leaving work one day may be fun to explain on the drive to a theater to watch a heist film…

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        15 hours ago

        Yhhhh but it’s sorta the same. Like, how many other girls have you used that on? What were their reactions? It just makes me think like that but I have issues…

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          14 hours ago

          Fun fact, I had used that joke before on an actual fda auditor who was not my preferred gender and about 20 years older than me, during an audit of a medical device manufacturer facility. (it got a small chuckle but that’s it).

          Yes I have history. Everyone does. I’m sure you have stories. Maybe about siblings? Friends? It’s not all about romance. What was your 15 year old birthday like? Did you have a party? Did you get any presents? Which was your favorite?

          Not trying to hit on you or anything(I’m probably way too old for you and barely know you) . But emphasizing that you have a history and a story. So does everyone on the street. Expressing these stories are a major way of having a connection with other people.

          Do you want to make friends? Romantic partners? Not with me but in general. These apply to all people. Listen to their stories. Tell your stories. Share your experiences. Listen to their experiences. Sharing experiences is how we connect with eachother on an emotional level.

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            6 hours ago

            I didn’t think you were talking about you as a partner for me at all lol. So funny how you had to clarify that twice.

            And I get all, but my position still stands. But reading the post again, I guess my initial comment doesn’t really have much to do with it. In the back of my mind I’ll be feeling not-so-special. Best if I stay single until I work on that insecurity properly.

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              14 hours ago

              You still have a story. What movies did you watch? What games did you play? What made you act like that? What made you stop that lifestyle?

              Everyone has a story and everyone’s story should be treasured. You might not of hunted treasure buried by nazis but it probably still a cool story to hear.

              Maybe if you were in a literal comma for 20 years, you might not have a story about those years but… Holy shit how did you end up in coma? Tell me about how that happened.