I tried making a Reddit account and it asked me to build karma before I could ask on any of the relevant subs so I’m posting here.
I can personally say that if anything goes up there, it hurts, and not in a good way. It does not feel pleasurable at all. It feels kind of like placing a finger on an open sore and pushing down.
Also, if you’re being examined, they tell you to take deep breaths, as if they know that anything going up is going to be painful. If sex is supposed to be pleasurable and enjoyable, why would doctors tell you to brace for impact, so to speak?
Lastly, women often scream during sex. It’s often said they’re screaming out of pleasure and not pain. But there are a lot of things I find extremely pleasurable, but I don’t scream while I do them.
Is it just one of those things that is painful but we’re conditioned into believing the pain is actually pleasure and I must have inconsistent pain tolerance and I am making a big deal out of this?
As far as i can tell women do actually enjoy putting things up there. Hard to imagine the sex toy market would be as big as it is if this was some collective hallucination to mask pain.
Again, dude here but I assume the reason doctors tell you to brace yourself for things like that is because inserting things isnt pleasurable unless you are properly aroused and I cant imagine many women are aroused by medical checkups.
I’d wager your issue is more that you arnt properly aroused when you are putting things up there…that OR you’ve got some kind of medical condition that you should probably bring up to a doctor.
It doesn’t matter if I’m extremely aroused or not, though. It’s about as pleasurable as pressing on an open sore. I don’t mean to yuck somebody’s yum, but I’m genuinely baffled how anyone could find that feeling enjoyable, let alone bearable.
That’s because you have an illness that afflicts ~6% of women. See a doctor.
Because that’s not what they’re feeling.
I’m not sure why you’re feeling that way — but it sounds like something you should look into. Do you have any over or under sensitivities to other sensations?
Yea, it sounds like you’ve got a medical problem. As a guy I obviously dont know first hand but I have been in a 15 year relationship that averages sex 3-4 times a week and I can pretty confidently say that putting things up there should feel good. Hell, I dont think the strap-on market would exist if it didnt. Too many lesbians doing things to eachothers holes for it all to be some mass trauma response thats turning pain into pleasure.
Because they may have different anatomy or sensory feedback than yourself. Many women enjoy sex, some scream out of animalistic intensity of the pleasure, especially during an ejaculatory climax