I have a girlfriend. She’s sweet, but she ALWAYS talks over me when i’m upset to change the subject or to tell me to look at a cat video or Bluey or Hazbin Hotel funny clips.
i feel so bad for saying this, but when i tried to tell her i was struggling with depression, it took like 3 tries to get her to listen, and all she said was to just be happy and smile.
today, i tried to tell her one of my grandpas died recently and she just talked over me about funny videos and tiktok. even if i tell her to listen, she does‘t or starts getting sad, so even when she says i can tell her anything, i don’t often. Am i in the wrong for that?
Also, she sends laughing emojis when I tell her something like “I have a PTSD diagnosis” on the topic of mental health, and she constantly puts herself down and asks me to give her reasons why she’s a good girlfriend and not “stupid and ugly”.
I agree, TYSM
I would add some depth to this take. How long have you known each others? It might be that she is trying to lighten the mood and, in a misplaced effort to make you happy, strikes the wrong note. This is a crappy excuse an only works if you have been dating very shortly (a couple of months max) and only if, when pointed out, she makes obvious attempts at redirecting. I would not go as far as couples counseling, not worth it if she can’t see the problem and fix it herself.