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Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeBanned from community to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 2 years ago

When you vet someone for whether you can be close friends with them, what's a seemingly unimpactful characteristic about someone that would instantly rule them out as a potential close friend for you?

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When you vet someone for whether you can be close friends with them, what's a seemingly unimpactful characteristic about someone that would instantly rule them out as a potential close friend for you?

Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeBanned from community to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 2 years ago
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    Being “vetted” by them…

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      Maybe you don’t like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you’ve spent time with.

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        Yes everyone does it naturally and mostly subconsciously over time as they get to know people. You’ve got to be a real psycho to be running through a checklist you’ve crowd sourced online. Wtf is this thread. Ugh reddit refugees lmao.

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          I personally doubt OP is going to actually use the answers like that.

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          Then it’s unconscious. Hopefully the criteria are ones you’d agree with if they were conscious.

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      For real this seems like a major red flag.

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