I have been identifying myself as non-binary because sometimes I feel like a dude, sometimes I feel like a women, and sometimes I feel like I’m sliding around the spectrum of both at the same time.
But a lot of the time I feel like I have no gender at all. Which as I understand it, is what people call agender.
Am I right in calling myself non-binary or should I be calling myself agender? Or both?
I feel like I should know these definitions better.
Non-binary is an umbrella term that encompasses genderlessness, and ultimately, just like Comrade @[email protected] said, labels are personal. The worst part of label discourse is when people try to be so prescriptive with labels. Like, as someone who identifies as pansexual, for instance, I abhor it when I see people say things like “Uhh, you’re actually pan, not bi” (or vice versa) to a person who is just aiming for personal comfort in their own label. I consider myself genderless in a sense, but I don’t call myself agender explicitly too much. There was a period where I was more fond of outwardly professing “agender” as my primary label, but nowadays, I just use the term “non-binary” and leave it at that because I like broader terms for myself typically. Basically, all that matters for me when it comes to labels is that I feel comfortable using that term and I find that term conveys my sense of identity to other people best. If a label checks those two boxes, it will most likely be at the forefront of my identity, so “non-binary” for gender identity and “pansexual” for sexual orientation fills that role best for me.