I have been identifying myself as non-binary because sometimes I feel like a dude, sometimes I feel like a women, and sometimes I feel like I’m sliding around the spectrum of both at the same time.
But a lot of the time I feel like I have no gender at all. Which as I understand it, is what people call agender.
Am I right in calling myself non-binary or should I be calling myself agender? Or both?
I feel like I should know these definitions better.
I’d call myself agender but not necessarily relate to the term “non-binary”. Like, I don’t mind if people assume I’m non-binary, I guess I am in that I don’t really care for the gender binary, but the term I actually feel represented by is agender. As others have said, non-binary is an umbrella term, and also these labels are ultimately arbitrary.
The reason I call myself agender is because gender just isn’t something that I think about, ever. I don’t consider myself part masc or part fem, or intentionally androgynous or gender non-comforming. Gender is just something that I never consider. I don’t look at clothes and think “are they masculine/ feminine/ androgynous enough for me”, I just look at clothes and think “that looks sick I want that”. Idk maybe I could explain this better later
Mood. I’m like that most of the time with clothes too.
Gender affirming clothes to me are a big cloak and big boots
How you described experiencing gender is very similar to how I do, but my identity is more inverse, in that I call myself non-binary more than I do agender, but I don’t really care if people assume that I identify as agender.
That’s valid, these labels are arbitrary