• explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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    4 hours ago

    IMHO whether or not a person will ever be a domestic abuser or rapist is pretty much determined by the time they reach adulthood. It’s not like a good man suddenly decides to start beating his wife or raping teenagers.

    • sunshine@lemmy.ml
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      3 hours ago

      I’d be interested to see any sociological evidence supporting that theory if there is any.

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      4 hours ago

      That you know of. That seems like a pretty broad brush to be painting with. It may be generally true but I’d be extremely surprised if there were no exceptions.

    • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      The only counter I have to that is how sensitive our brains are to chemical, mental, and physical trauma.

      Drugs, injury, and environmental stress cause easily observable behavior changes, but also changes on the brain measurable in medical imaging. And there’s a lot of acknowledgement that these changes can occur in childhood and persist.

      I don’t think anyone chooses to be cruel, I think it’s forced on them in ways they can’t do anything about, and as a society we owe it to them to do better and help them.