In this case I don’t think it’s about the porn but the need to show it off as an integral part of your identity. I think it may even betray a need to reaffirm your heteronormativity hence a bad role model if you happen to get kids that need to learn about who they are rather than what’s expected of them.

So we will always say “porn is bad” is a stupid belief because like in all things when you get in the weeds it’s never going to be easy sorting it out.