• bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net
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    20 days ago

    No, it seems like you identify in a non-binary way and they/them would be an appropriate way to address you.

    This isn’t saying you should or shouldn’t be addressed in a specific way, I’m saying it’s not clear what your gender identity is. You’ve stated an occupation, not a gender. I don’t want to get into how I disagree that gender can be an occupation, but you haven’t said anything about how an occupation can be a gender.

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      20 days ago

      They/them, which is a gender neutral pronoun, would be an appropriate way to refer to drag, if there weren’t any pronouns that refer specifically to dragon riders. But since there are, they/them is about as appropriate for drag as it is for an average man or woman. Drag thinks you’ve misunderstood the they/them pronoun. It doesn’t refer specifically to nonbinary people, it refers to any group or person lacking specified gender. Drag is not lacking specified gender, drag’s gender is very specified.

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        20 days ago

        You can refer to men or women as they, as you are not specifying a gender with the world “they”

        So you are making up grammar rules, this has nothing to do with gender. Bye.

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          19 days ago

          So you’re saying that your reluctance to use drag/dragself pronouns is equal to your reluctance to use she and he pronouns, and you start an argument with anyone who uses a he or a she pronoun too?

          Okay, thanks. If you’re not treating drag any differently than other people, then drag feels okay. Sorry for assuming that you were singling drag out.