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PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net to menby@hexbear.netEnglish ·
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Biphobia against men discourse popping tf off on Twitter today (CW: Homophobia)

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Biphobia against men discourse popping tf off on Twitter today (CW: Homophobia)

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Honestly, I’m here for it. The biphobic stuff I would hear from women kept me in the closet for a long time

https://xcancel.com/guywhoiswoke/status/1871313546266759389

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    wait like, half of this at least, is also discriminatory to SA victims. Do these people just tell men who are assaulted to fuck off?

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      Male SA victims get no special considerations ask me how I know k-pain

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      Yeah, that’s what the grand jury and some of my family basically said 🙃

      Though that’s not solely a male SA victim thing, often just a SA victim thing. Society just tells men and women SA victims to fuck off in different ways.

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      Yes, that’s how male SA victims are treated usually

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      Only if they cry too much about it, probably.

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