So my family invited me over for Christmas like they do every year. I didn’t think it would be a good year but I went anyway. When I showed up they were very nice to me until I came in and they saw that I have earrings and they also noticed that I haven’t cut my hair in a while. Then they started acting very weird around me, and whispered to each other. Then when we were eating at the table they asked if I’m a transvestite. I put my fork down and I said “No, I’m not a transvestite. I am a trans girl”.
My mother cried and got very sad and my father got angry, saying he “didn’t raise his son to be a sissy”. I responded though by saying: “Who said just because I’m a trans girl that I’m a sissy? 💪” To that he got pissed but couldn’t say anything in response. I think they were hoping I’d be upset or offended, maybe even cry, but I didn’t and honestly I expected their behavior. I’m not upset or hurt, just mildly disappointed in them for not at least trying to be better people.
I’ve known they were transphobic and right leaning for a while and I’m not surprised at all by their behavior. I kind of thought they’d get better but it’s not surprising they didn’t.
Anyway, I just wanted to share this, I hope you all have a merry Christmas, and please stay safe. Don’t hang out with transphobic assholes for Christmas if you can help it.
Well done for telling them and being strong in the face of such a hostile reaction. I’m sorry it went like this. Don’t let them get you down, and treat yourself well this Christmas. I hope one day they find a way to be more compassionate and mature.
It is mildly disappointing that they’re like this, I honestly feel more bad for them and how it’ll affect them. Other than that though I don’t take it personally, I guess since I used to be like them in my beliefs so I know why they’re like that and it doesn’t hurt me. I hope at the very least for their sake they can learn to overcome their bigotry in the future, though I know it’ll likely never happen.
By the way, I did leave shortly after the incident. I just got a Tupperware container, packed it full of food for me to eat when I got home, and I got in my car and left.
So sorry to hear this, though, I have to commend your apparent calm and mesured approach you had to face them head on.
Welcome to the dark side
We have cookies, makeup classes, and guillotine sharpening services. Enjoy! 💜
Props for having the courage, it is up to them whether or not they want to get over their phobia. I hope you have a good life regardless.
Sorry to hear that :/
I think you handled it well.
my father got angry, saying he “didn’t raise his son to be a sissy”. I responded though by saying: “Who said just because I’m a trans girl that I’m a sissy? 💪” To that he got pissed but couldn’t say anything in response.
lol, you are a legend
Sorry girl, but good for you for living your truth anyway! Happy holidays!
That sounds really hard, sorry you had to go through that.
Yeah I guess, I don’t really feel that bad though, just kind of sorry for them that they can’t be better people. Like I said it doesn’t surprise me. They think it’s a phase right now. I wonder what they’ll say when I have boobs. Actually I’m kinda excited to see. I got some good comebacks for whatever they might say 😈
