like “supporting” someone with adhd but hating them and believing they should be shunned or treated differently for interrupting others, not paying attention, and not being able to sit still, rather than try to help them or tell them not to interrupt the conversation.
or “supporting” deaf people but getting mad because they only talk sign language and can’t hear what you say.
I have quite a few disorders and i’ve been talked abt and treated like shit for it, and not just because I have the disorder but because im different. I don’t fit in anywhere and never will.
all of my “friends” talk shit abt me and my disabilities, and then one person is always like “oh yeah, this person said this about you and they hate that you can’t pay attention, and that person says you should jump off a cliff!”
You can believe that people stuck in wheelchairs deserve equal access to public spaces via accommodations like ramps or elevators, and still hate Ted, who happens to be paraplegic, because he is a hateful, racist, fascist MAGA jerk. In this case, your shunning of Ted is not ableist because the reason you treat Ted differently is unrelated to his disability and you are well aware of the fact. He doesn’t get a pass for things unrelated to his disability.
However, if you are aware of someones disability and treat them prejudiciously because of it (or it’s symptoms) then you are the ableist jerk. If you are the one with a disability and people treat you in a prejudicious manner because your disabilities or their symptoms, then they are jerks and not friends.