Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)
Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…
Like, my blunt uncle might make a joke about a boyfriend being ugly and cracking a mirror or something, but he would never, ever, say something like ‘you can do better’ or ‘ew’.
There’s a line between being open and honest about someone’s attractiveness, and being cruel and a bad judge of character.