I’m nonbinary femme. I don’t like masculine or male terms. A few days ago, I was on a group chat with someone and they said “this guy” and used “he/him” pronouns, not knowing my gender. I, however, told them not to address me as a guy and that I preferred neutral terms but was fine with feminine terms as well.
I just casually said “Don’t address me as a man, I prefer neutral terms or feminine.”
Alrighty. Well, if I’m gonna be honest, the wording does seem a bit like you excepted them to know. “Don’t address me as…” idk, it might just be me. But if I was the dude on the receiving end of that, my first thought would be, “Damn, I didn’t know, don’t gotta act like I did it on purpose.”
Like “hey, person, just a heads up, please call me such n such instead of the other thing” That could just be me, I’m a sensitive guy, but I try to approach conversations with the sense that the other person doesn’t know me like I know me.