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  • zifnab25 [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    Our generation is the first to realize that having kids fucking sucks.

    I’ve had the opportunity to foster twice in my life and both times are some of the happiest I’ve been. I’m gearing up for a run at permanent adoption in the next few months because I think kids are absolutely amazing and I want the opportunity to raise someone from childhood to adulthood in order to share everything about life that is good.

    I’ve got friends who are in the teaching field, and they regularly give me some wild stories. But the worst things they inevitably come back on are the administration hurdles and the idiotic bureaucracies. The kids are always the reason they stay in the field. They love the kids, even the rough cut ones. They even like the parents, more often than not.

    Having kids is an amazing, life changing experience that transforms you and gives you the realiest opportunity to connect with other people and transform the world around you. The fact that we treat it as some kind of luxury, rather than a fundamental part of life, is a tragedy that’s reflected in the hollowing out of the nation.

    • TheLepidopterists [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      I don’t have words this good to say but I just wanted to echo this.

      I love being a dad. It feels like the most important and fulfilling thing I’ve ever done and I love my kid more than life itself. The only thing I’d change about it IS doing it under capitalism. Childcare costs, having to do a religious preschool because secular ones are even MORE expensive, my wife and I both having to work full time jobs (often with decent length commutes) and not feeling like we get enough time at home with him.

      None of these are inherent to parenthood they’re inherent to capitalism.

    • hi_communism_im_dad [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      Good on you, comrade. Providing a safe and loving house to an adopted child that needs a family is something I deeply respect.

      Being a dad has been the most fulfilling aspect of my life for a long time. I wish you the best of luck and nothing but joy.

    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      bro it isnt a “fundamental part of life”, its just that you are a caring and responsible parent who understands the gravity of what it means to raise a child to adulthood and accepts it wholeheartedly

      raising kids should not be seen as a way of finding meaning for the sake of finding meaning, its someone elses life in your hands, meditation, prayer, and shitposting also exist

      • Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        raising kids should not be seen as a way of finding meaning for the sake of finding meaning,

        Good thing he didn’t say that then. It’s a fundamental part of life because it literally enables the existence of future generations of humanity. Human life doesn’t happen without parents. It’s fine to not want kids, its not a fundamental part of every single individual’s life, but it is a fundamental part of life as a whole, for the species.

        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]@hexbear.net
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          1 year ago

          idk man he kind of implied it overall by saying:

          “Having kids is an amazing, life changing experience that transforms you and gives you the realiest opportunity to connect with other people and transform the world around you. The fact that we treat it as some kind of luxury, rather than a fundamental part of life…”

          • Aceivan [they/them]@hexbear.net
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            1 year ago

            I hate this website sometimes. I typed out a whole reply and then clicked cancel accidentally lol

            Anyhow, I can totally see where you would get that impression but I think you are kinda assuming the worst. I don’t personally know anyone that thinks “everyone should have kids even if they don’t think they want to” or anything remotely like that, and zifnab seems like a good dude, so I was more charitable in my reading. It was pretty clear to me that he was countering the increasingly deranged posts about how awful having kids is and nobody should do it by citing his own experience and those of people around him, not saying that that poster in particular, or “everyone always”, should have kids. Just reinforcing that it isn’t an inherently miserable experience, quite the opposite, for many it turns out to be very rewarding.