• Vilian@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    you missed their flirting because you didn’t liked them enough, or they didin’t like you enough to say to you, or flirt until you take the hint

    source: my girlfriend has social anxiety and is shy asf, but she really showed it, and i’m a dumbass

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      1 year ago

      Oh I figured they were flirting only that this realisation occurred three months after the fact.

      I would have very much wanted to date them.

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      1 year ago

      Or because one or both parties are very socially inept.

    • MrsEaves@kbin.social
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      1 year ago

      Lady with social anxiety here to confirm. Flirting is useless. Every time I’ve just given up and asked the dude to date after being extremely forward for a while and they’re always shocked 🤷🏼‍♀️ Once we get past that, it’s great.

    • halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com
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      Nah, I’ve certainly had a few reflective moments where I realized my missed opportunities. The reality is, unless you’re really confident and self-possessed, it’s hard to put yourself out there. So I can understand why these guys didn’t just spell it out for me, cause they likely weren’t sure I was into them. And on my end, I always struggled with low self-esteem, so I just assumed that these attractive guys weren’t actually into me and were just being nice/good friends.

      Anyways, I’m glad your girlfriend is an exception to the rule.

    • DefederateLemmyMl@feddit.nl
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      1 year ago

      you missed their flirting because you didn’t liked them enough

      More likely that you missed it because you didn’t like yourself enough to believe that they were sending out clear hints.

    • rotopenguin@infosec.pub
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      1 year ago

      You missed their flirting because a good portion of your highschool class discovered that the absolute funniest gag in the world is to “flirt” with you.