‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.

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    8 months ago

    I remember back in the day if people found out you were on a dating website, you were basically totally ostracized. Then people realized, well shit, if I’m going to be ostracized for looking for love online, I might as well do it on the free website (POF). But POF basically became the “drug addict and single mom machine”. Then dating apps came out and it became trendy and cool because you didn’t have to actually connect with anyone and you could be aloof and detached and have NSA sex with strangers. Now everyone hates dating apps again. Normalize talking to people about real things in public!

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      I’m not sure if this applies where you are but since covid it is HARD to talk to people irl. I’m chatty and will strike up conversations everywhere I go. Before covid most people engaged. Since they look at me like I’m grow>ng a second head. Dating apps have always worked well for me though. Damn well.

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      8 months ago

      I remember people would lie about how they met because they didn’t want to say they met online. Oh how the times have been-a-changing

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        8 months ago

        Depending on the context, my partner and I don’t like sharing that we met on an app either.

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          I had a girlfriend that I met on a dating app and her mother was really hung up on the whole dating app thing. She never liked it if we told people that we met on a dating app.

          So we both started coming up with ridiculous stories about how we met. I think at one point we claimed that my girlfriend was a Chinese mail ordered bride despite her not being Chinese and having red hair. Used to do it with a straight face too, used to really confuse people.

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          8 months ago

          The only app that people have been hesitant to tell me they met is PoF. Although I’ve never met anyone who’s volunteered that they met on fetlife and you know, statistically speaking, some people must have.

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          Well, I like to say me and my partner met online, then add it was actually a music sharing site. If I decide to troll a little, I change the last part to “a BDSM forum”.

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          8 months ago

          If y’all met at a brothel or while at the Jan 6th rally, I’d get it. I don’t get it for most other things though.