• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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        If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.

        This community is for jokes and laughs, stop taking it so seriously. Mayhap you should consume more fiber and less Takis so you may dislodge whatever is damming up your large colon and let the poo flow.

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    This is bait but emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions, not the emotions having intelligence

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      The contemporary use is from management theory.

      It was a metric made up to measure management candidates. From there it got into the self-help industry, and now that’s why everyone posts it on their dating profiles, because are looking for someone to manage their emotions for them.

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      I usually think of it in terms of recognizing others’ emotions and adjusting your words/actions to better cooperate or de-escalate

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    Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.

    Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn’t mean they don’t have a point.

    I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I’ve seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO’s bullshit, more often the “calm” one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting.

    Bringing gender or “misogyny” into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the “women” part wrong. My fellow bitches, the “calm” ones are not on your side.

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      We need that chart that shows gay LTRs have the lowest divorce rate, and lesbians the highest, with heteros slightly less than lesbians.

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    “You can’t be emotional and intelligent at the same time” is a misogynistic dogwhistle, anon thinks women are less intelligent than men, and I suspect the whole rant is informed by anons misogyny

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        Jk Rowling doesn’t have the benefit of the doubt for that to work. Her works are dripping with status quo reinforcing shit and neither herself nor her characters are capable of growing past what they were born as.

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          Just to clear it up for people who apparently don’t realize it: I wasn’t actually discussing Rowling with the above comment.

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        It’s not bigoted to recognize the type of language and stereotypes that are used against marginalized people. If you’re a woman, you’ve almost certainly been called “too emotional” or “on her period” before as a means to dismiss you by people like this who think that emotions and rationality are incompatible with each other.

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    “Intelligence” isn’t about knowing a lot of stuff or even having experience. It’s about being able to use your knowledge and experience to solve problems. So, by that logic, emotional intelligence means a skill of solving problems pertaining to emotions.

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      I’d say emotional intelligence is understanding why you feel a certain way and not allowing the automatic reaction to those feelings to be the default reaction.

      Like if something makes you angry, instead of going crazy, you take a deep breath and address it calmly. It’s primarily emotional regulation.

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    reflection is OFF THE FUCKING TABLE DIDN’T I SAY SO ALREADY I’M ENRAGED AT THE MERE THOUGHT OF THIS WHY WOULD ANYONE HURT THEMSELVES LIKE THIS BY LOOKING INSIDE I’M ANGRY HELP NO DON’T HELP AAAH. /s