A toxic person is someone whose behavior adds negativity and upset to your life. These individuals thrive on creating drama, spreading negativity, and draining the energy and happiness of those around them. They are often characterized by their lack of empathy, constant need for attention, and tendency to manipulate or harm others for their gain.
This article feels like garbage … first the number in the title does not market the number explained (13 and 12) aswell as many of the example sentences are innocus things.
Also the entire style screams of AI, written generation
my fear with this article being up is that the conclusion someone will take away is to close off to everyone, or for some of them, not help out when needed because those people are “toxic”
“Anything that touches a nerve is [thing I don’t like, therefore bad]”
my fear with this article being up is that the conclusion someone will take away is to close off to everyone, or for some of them, not help out when needed because those people are “toxic”
If that’s someone’s take away, they have their own issues.
“Overweight? Try these 6 diet & exercise combos!” “Bored with your PlayStation? Here’s 8 amazing Xbox-exclusives to try!” “Looking for love? Experts recommend these 10 dating tips!”
Et cetera.
Literally every headline along these lines is clickbait for a shitty article that tells you common info everybody knows. These are written to milk ad revenue and should be avoided.
how many types of non-toxic people are there? why don’t we have directions for finding them?
We all have our more and less toxic thought patterns and behaviors. And we all have a limited number of days to live, most of those with limited hours after daily living tasks/basic survival, family and community obligations, rest and recreation. Or maybe due to some un/fortunate fluke, we have long days of nothing to do past basic survival. We still have limited days of limited mental and physical health and energy. I watched a lecture the other day and the speaker said think of it as perhaps mental/physical health are a form of life force energy, and we have perhaps 100 kg of life force energy available to use, per day. Then we have anchors that require a certain amount of energy to carry as we swim through the sea of life, and swimming requires a certain amount of life force. Some anchors weigh more and require more life force to carry, some weigh less, but carrying a lot uses more life force.
Anger, bitterness, depression, resentment serve a purpose, but beyond recognizing and sitting with them, working through and most importantly, accepting our part of the responsibility for them, they are dead weight anchors. They are the heaviest, each weighs maybe 5-10 kg. So if I cling to all four, depending on how much I feed (focus on) them, I’m using anywhere from 20-40 kg of my available life force on those things alone. And then if I’m foisting it off on others, always, that’s another 10kg, so I’ve used half of my life force for the day on stuff that keeps me in a cycle of draining half my life force. This is real, see the book, The Body Keeps the Score. Beyond that, I’m also robbing anyone I corner into listening to me complain about these same exact issues, over and over of several kg of their own daily life force. They begin to notice and distance, or just ghost. So there’s a new trauma anchor I pick up and carry, another 5 kg. I’m now wasting nearly half my life force on carrying stuff, rather than expending the life force to find and initiate healthier patterns that will lighten the load, until I’m finally good enough at these behaviors to simply let go of my anchors. But as we age, we have less daily life force available, due to natural aging, illness or injury, plus all the damage we’ve done by clinging to anchors that would drown us as if they’re life buoys! We can’t get back the days and years, but if we start today, we can make the most of what we have, and perhaps gain a kg or two of life force with healthier habits: sleep hygiene, more conscious eating to the best of our ability, exercise, stretching, yoga and/or meditation, daily sunshine, upping intake of daily water, reframing thoughts, changing negative self talk into something less bad if not positive, etc.
And there are latent effects: one day I don’t realize I’m smiling as I go about my business or sit outside or by a window, and a passer-by smiles at me, giving me a half kg of life force. As this goes on, another day someone smiles, waves, comments, "Lovely day, innit mate?” and I agree and a brief conversation follows. Perhaps if we meet on daily walks, one of us will suggest a café and cuppa. There, I’ve gained 10 kg of life force and a friend.
Also, it’s a marathon, not a race. None of us will ever be perfect, and there’s no need to seek that. Today, “what is one less toxic behavior I can refuse to engage, today? Oh, ruminating wastes a lot of time and life force, I’ll begin there.” And we will falter, perhaps fail, and begin again. After we have that better under control, “What is a more positive use of my time, than ruminating? Oh, I may daydream, doodle, or attempt a drawing,” and so forth. Before we know it, we’re spending only 10kg of life force on negative things, 10 on positive, which give us back the same 10.
These are practices I might have begun 20 years ago, if I had a clue, because they work. Ask me how I know.
So many of these toxicity-types in the people around me
