My best friend, who I’ll call Derek, had been spending an unhealthy amount of time with his fiance (Evan). Every time I tried to tell him I was worried, he acted like I was jealous instead of listening to someone who has known him far longer than his fiance has. He ignored my feelings and even scoffed when I said this was unfair to me.
I eventually got him to come boxing with me after he kept cancelling (I had to pull the “I don’t feel safe being alone right now” card 🙄). He came away with some bruises, which I didn’t intend, but I honestly thought it might help people see what I’d been seeing- that he wasn’t safe- so I took advantage of the opportunity.
I reported his fiance because he was obviously being emotionally abusive, preventing Derek from hanging out with me. I may have emphasized certain things, but only because nobody takes emotional abuse seriously unless there’s evidence they can actually see.
When nothing happened, I called for help from Derek’s phone, pretending to be him. I know that sounds bad, but I was scared he’d minimize it or protect Evan, like victims do.
Now Evan is in jail, and Derek is drinking again and crying all the time and saying he feels crazy (he doesn’t know I reported Evan). This isn’t what I wanted. I don’t want to take care of him. I want to play Halo.
I keep wondering whether I made things worse. But what was I supposed to do- just watch him throw his life away and then pretend I didn’t notice? I’m not even Catholic so I don’t understand why I’m feeling this way.
Edit: Solved!
Edit 2: uh oh, I asked my mom and she said I went to a catholic preschool… This might go deeper than I thought.
The fact that you feel guilty implies you are subconsciously Catholic. I’m so sorry.
I don’t want to have to do research on how many layers of irony are in a post. Downvoted for being incoherent slop
I think you dropped this? -> /s
Sir, this is a Wendy’s
Your feelings and guilt aren’t real; this is about Derek. Encourage him to drink even more (the way out is through) and Evan, well, Evan has several new fiancées now and is probably happier than ever.
Thank you for your support! I knew I wasn’t secretly Catholic, so this makes more sense
Shit, we’re gonna need TherapyTherapyGary for this one
Well, you all sound like horrible people so I really hope this is a dig on some other post somewhere.
What does this have to do with being catholic? You did something drastic and now doubt what you did. Anyone would have doubts after doing such a thing.
How did you figure out Derek was being abused? You only talked about him not meeting up with you anymore. I don’t think I fully understand what happened when you went boxing.
I knew he was being emotionally abused because why else would he spend so much time with Evan and keep cancelling on me? Nothing happened when we went boxing, but he got bruises from the boxing, and then I implied to the police that the bruises were because of Evan so they would take it seriously.
But that’s not the point though, the point was I was confused about why I was feeling guilty even though I’m not Catholic
When I met my wife I also was always around her and cancelled on friends. Nothing abusive was going on. If that is all you had for proof, I think you know why you feel guilty: you set up someone to be taken in by the pigs. It would be psychopathic if you didn’t feel guilty.
Go and talk to that Evan that you claim to want to be a friend of (playing halo without talking is not friendship), and go find out if you need to speak to the cops to make this right.
Dumbass
And just now I realise the community you posted this in.
Consider me had.
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If this is real your a fuckin psychopath, lol
Hakuna matata
Now Evan is in jail, and Derek is drinking again and crying all the time and saying he feels crazy (he doesn’t know I reported Evan). This isn’t what I wanted. I don’t want to take care of him. I want to play Halo.
You fucked around and now you found out. Man up, and stop being a horrible person.
